Referring to my previous post, Man of Your Dreams, some folks took issue with my musing. In that post, I shared a prevalent observation which was that many in my generation are looking for the perfect, got it all together other, the “designer spouse,” – the one!
And yes, I agreed they could be found in one place – in our dreams and fantasies.
Maybe that was too much. Was it?
In regards to that post, a close friend who was bothered by it asked a great question. In this post, I share some things we discussed.
My friend wanted to know –
Where do you draw the line between standards and accepting something less than what you hoped?
Well, I don’t know. I have no idea. I confess, I’m a romantic. But, somewhere between life and a hard place, I lost my mojo. I lost my M.O
I’m no Moto-Moto
I’m guessing you “love birds” are making last minute arrangements and wrapping up on your romance strategies with bags of roses, rings, necklaces, planned lush dinners, proposals…!
And then on Valentine’s day its…
Girls and free drinks, Singles and a few drinks, Guys and two things, Cuddles and Chick Flicks, Breakups and Karaokes, “will you marry me” and diamond rings, dates talking pet peeves…you know, the usual.
And then, there is “US.” Singles with little or no prospects who can’t stand the commercialization of love and loneliness.
I have been wondering why some of “us” who have “the goods” are single and boy do I have some musings to share with you.
Okay! Hands up if you have been worrying about…well…everything?
Well! STOP IT! (lol)
Seriously though, have your peace. I pray blessings over you. I pray for peace to flood your soul, for grace to be your own, and for a renewed strength to go your way in Jesus name.
THIS IS GOING TO BE AN EXCELLENT YEAR
For the past week, I have been reflecting about what would be one of the most important things to consider moving forward this new year. Though this is going to be an excellent year, I sense that the troubles and challenges we will be facing will be on a level that will require us to be grounded in this – one thing – I am about to share.
Let me do just that using a true story I came across in a book called – Translating God – by Shawn Bolz.
1 + 1 may reach the mind, but once upon a time reaches the heart – Lou E.
So here it goes…
An enthusiastic young man, Dan, came to a conference of leaders where they were some leaders. He was excited about the opportunity to possibly be called up to speak even though he was not on the list. A discussion panel was being organized and Dan was hoping to fill in one more spot.
Dan went to see the head organizer, telling him of the numerous things he could do for everyone there, especially the head organizer himself. The head organizer had never met or heard of Dan. Certainly, he had talent. There was just one lingering possibility though.
And so, the organizer said to Dan, “Can I ask you some questions?”
“Of course!” Dan replied.
“Where did you go to celebrate Christmas last year?” the organizer asked.
Dan was confused since he had been expecting questions about what he could bring do or bring to the table.
“Um, I don’t remember. I was invited over to a co-worker’s house.” Dan said.
I’m not married. I’m just excited about it. I never used to be. Marriage used to terrify me. I grew up in a matrix of a home. I love my folks. But, I must confess that my family had quite the baggage. Ok, my side of the family. That contributed to the doubts and fear I had about marriage.