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Lesson 1: Leverage Your Challenges

Today, I begin unpacking some lessons that I learned and those that were reinforced during my social media absentia. Before that, I must confess –

I have stepped back from social media and I am just enjoying friends, family, and new connections in real time. Still on a people high, folks. Wooo…

Anywho…back to Lesson 1.

If you have been reading my post, you may remember that one of the challenges I faced was finances for tuition. I explained the unforeseen circumstances that wrapped itself around my dilemma, making me seemingly powerfulness to do anything. Here’s what I didn’t tell you.

In search for help,

I walked from one business to the next asking business owners for financial support. Not too long ago, I biked from one city to the next doing the same thing. I applied for several scholarships online and called non-for-profits for help. They couldn’t help.

I received some promising nods. But, they were temporal. So I kept searching. I negotiated with my school to let me finish my M.A. on the condition that they wouldn’t give my degree or acknowledge my credentials unless I paid the outstanding balance. It took a lot of people and convincing for that to happen. But, thank God it did.

Then, this is what happened a few months after –

I volunteered to do a Peace Facilitation at a Rotary Club and that is where I met *Ada. She inquired about me and learned of some of my challenges. I told her what I had done and asked if I could use my wits in some way to solve problems for a creative scholarship that could be crafted by an individual, group of individuals or organization on my behalf. We brainstormed some ideas and came up with some names to reach out to.

Ada introduced me to Tom*, one of the names we came up with. Tom, in turn, reached out to a couple others. Nothing happened, initially. Then, came along a tall, beautiful, high-class Scottish lady, quite formal in her appearance, speech, attitude, and mannerism.

She encouraged me, began suggesting things I should do, giving me corrections and directions, and reached out to some high profile folks, and eventually brought me to them. Quite the journey I must tell you. Still, the financial problem wasn’t solved.

But, here is the thing.

Doors I never would have thought possible were opened. People I would not have ever thought of meeting were sitting right across from me, chatting with me, challenging me, questioning me, receiving ideas from me, and planning things with me over cold drinks.

Contacts were emerging from unassuming people and places with a desire to simply help. Even though I still had a current challenge, it seems in the midst of these people and ideas I am encountering, my challenge seems less of a problem and more of an opportunity – a solution.

If my challenge was non-existent, would Ish’ have fought the way he has been fighting? Would he have been patient and persevering? Would he have creatively brainstormed ideas the way he did with? I am uncertain.

So, here’s lesson one-

Lesson 1: Shameless persistence! Shameless persistence. If there is no door, build one. Create your own opportunities. Leverage your challenges.

And here’s a thought for you.

Instead of trying to rid yourself of your challenges, rest in them.

Can you do that? Your challenges may just be opportunities in disguise. Calm yourself. Reason with God through it and let’s see what happens. Take baby steps if were you are inspired to. You just might find your challenge to be another invitation to discover that –

Life is NOT full of surprises – YOU ARE!

The one blessing my mom and grandmom gave me was, “You will have many mothers.” Briefly, that means, when things are about to change, if I need help, or if I am entering a new season of my life…one of God’s friends would emerge to help. A mother will emerge.

It seems my challenge was the perfect opportunity for God to bring The Queen of Social, a Prussian dutchess, an executive coach, an outstanding lady…Β – into my life.

But, that’s a story for another time.

Until then, hang in there.

Stay humble, stay strong.

And be blessed with a week full of good health and prosperity.

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One Love, One Spirit