Tag: Negotiation

Is it 10 or 11?

Once, at the end of a conference, we were told –

Fill out these one-page surveys and bring them to us when you are done. Be honest. We will like to know how we are doing and how you enjoyed the conference.”

To be honest, the conference was a blast. I had so much fun. I learned so much. I made friends. And I had a breakthrough sharing the most vulnerable part of my life with a complete stranger who also took time to reciprocate.

I thoroughly enjoyed this leadership conference. The people, the dancing, and two-stepping to folk music was a refreshing experience. So, how could I accurately convey how I really felt? On this survey, words were not permitted. Only checks in boxes. And as usual, the survey read –

“From 1-10, 10 being the best and 1 being the worst, rate your experience. How did you enjoy this conference and was it helpful?”

How then could I convey everything I was feeling? Selecting 10 would reflect the outcome but, not what the conference and the people did for me. I need to check this box in a way that filled the page with the level of joy and gratitude I wished to express.

But, wait….! I had an idea.

Write down 11 and 12, drew boxes beside both of them and checked box 12 as if to say you score 12 out of 10. You have two extra points. You went the extra mile.

Then it hit him.

Sometimes, we have only a few choices. Sometimes, we have to choose between a bad and a worse choice. But other times, if we are keen, we can invent space for possibilities. All it takes is negotiation the space between us.

Creativity simply means asking

“Why not? and Why can’t I do this?”

Creativity is simply adding one or two more boxes in the context of what you need to do. Why does creativity start with the question why? Because

Unlike how and where, why gives the new box a reason to be, a reason to exist.

But why pose a question?

Questions lift your soul out of its body box, allowing it to leave its current desert experience to encounter what is possible so that when it returns it can be a source of inspiration and empowerment to the body box, helping it expand with time and with pace.

That’s how we begin inventing space for possibility. That’s why –

Never stop looking for what’s not there. Opportunity is also what’s not there. It is creativity that is not apparently there but is. And questions like “why not” help us get there.

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One Love, One Spirit


 

NAVIGATING PEOPLE POLITICS & SOCIAL STORMS (as your destiny unfolds)

“Its time for the boys to put away their toys and come on in”

Well, that got my attention. It does looks that way when you think about it.

A little back story.

This past weekend, I was at the SCMA conference where I got to listen and meet William Ury, Author of “Getting to Yes,” Adviser to the Columbian President, Internationally renowned Negotiator…!

Okay…you get it. He is a serious and famous fella.

I lied! He is serious with his work and yes, famous. But, overall, he is a nice, humble, and down to earth young man (at heart).

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William Ury is NOT the black guy

So, when this legend said “Its time for the boys to put away their toys and come on in,” a quote he heard from a female farmer from Kansas, it resonated with me. Because frankly, Presidents Trump and Kim seem to be playing “Trash talk” and “Pride Wars” with toys which so happen to be nukes.

If you didn’t already know, we (“the people”) are caught in the middle. Hello!

While I am hopeful that President Trump will exhaust all outlets of overt and covert diplomacy, the tension is unreasonably high. Unacceptable? Uhhh…well…I find it somewhat exciting. Continue reading “NAVIGATING PEOPLE POLITICS & SOCIAL STORMS (as your destiny unfolds)”