Often, we think that to get along, especially in relationships, we have to be on the same page. Well, I disagree.
We are all different. We are each unique expressions of the image of God with different hopes, dreams, and ideas. We each have our own experiences and differentiating nuances in world views. Yes, even when we believe the same thing.
Imagining romantic relationships here – what if her level of spirituality is different from yours? What do you do then? Is it a good match or not? Obviously, one of you has much to learn, yes?
So, being on the same page is not really plausible. What do you do then?
When you are in a relationship or intend to begin a deep one –
Referring to my previous post, Man of Your Dreams, some folks took issue with my musing. In that post, I shared a prevalent observation which was that many in my generation are looking for the perfect, got it all together other, the “designer spouse,” – the one!
And yes, I agreed they could be found in one place – in our dreams and fantasies.
Maybe that was too much. Was it?
In regards to that post, a close friend who was bothered by it asked a great question. In this post, I share some things we discussed.
My friend wanted to know –
Where do you draw the line between standards and accepting something less than what you hoped?
Well, I don’t know. I have no idea. I confess, I’m a romantic. But, somewhere between life and a hard place, I lost my mojo. I lost my M.O
I’m no Moto-Moto
I’m guessing you “love birds” are making last minute arrangements and wrapping up on your romance strategies with bags of roses, rings, necklaces, planned lush dinners, proposals…!
And then on Valentine’s day its…
Girls and free drinks, Singles and a few drinks, Guys and two things, Cuddles and Chick Flicks, Breakups and Karaokes, “will you marry me” and diamond rings, dates talking pet peeves…you know, the usual.
And then, there is “US.” Singles with little or no prospects who can’t stand the commercialization of love and loneliness.
I have been wondering why some of “us” who have “the goods” are single and boy do I have some musings to share with you.
I’ve been up and running, from North to South in Califonia and just returned to the villa. Personally, I prefer to sit down, reflect, and write. So, its been particularly difficult to set the mood and press some fresh spiritual and inspiration juice for you.
What’s up people?
THIS IS GOING TO BE AN EXCELLENT YEAR
Last weekend, I was in Orange County attending a Singles Life Workshop. And people, let me tell you – AMAZING! I was thinking I would walk into this event and meet 20-somethings and maybe, 30-somethings and maybe find a “pretty mama” but noooo….
I saw a few 20-somethings and 30’s to 60-somethings all over the place. I was like – Lord, have mercy…
Seriously! I was like…even the 40’s to 70’s are looking for love?
I thought folks in their 40’s, 50’s, 60’s…would have it down by now. I thought they would have it all together. But nooo…both the men and women came with their own issues.
I’m not married. I’m just excited about it. I never used to be. Marriage used to terrify me. I grew up in a matrix of a home. I love my folks. But, I must confess that my family had quite the baggage. Ok, my side of the family. That contributed to the doubts and fear I had about marriage.