Tag: Leadership

Sharp Leadership: Influence vs. Movement

Leadership is not just about influence: it is a movement.

If you move and influence people, alone, then that’s it – you influence them. If you want to create real impact, carry your people with you. If you carry your people with you,

1) you won’t be alone, 2) you will get support, and 3) the sound of all y’all’s feet will cause an earthquake of positive influence…

…which will impact people behind you, beside you, in front of you, and generations down the line. Bonus – you will be happier.

In my class, our professor, a former U.S Ambassador, brought in a speaker – Carl Sharperson, a former Marine Corp Pilot and a top Leadership Innovation Strategist, to speak to us. He authored Sharp Leadership. His book is transforming the way I lead my life and interactions.

– Below is my Sharp Leadership project (how did I do?)

You can use Carl’s Five key principles below to – carry yourself & your people with excellence. These principles are –

1) Tell the truth: how important is this? E.g. – If as an engineer, you tell your marine pilot his plane is half-full when its not, because you are scared, you may have just cost the pilot his life if he goes flying far thinking his fuel tank is full. Let your responses be – no, yes, or I will find out.

2) Be accountable: Be a man/woman of your word. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Do what you say when you say you will do it and how you say you will do it.

3) Take care of your people: If you take care of your people, your people will take care of you.

4) Give and receive feedback: Use a sandwich model – compliment, offer criticism, then compliment. Or use the Bringles Model – Ask for feedback first and then give feedback after.

5) Be fair: From speaker LeRoy Crooks, an industrial genius – “Don’t do something for one person if you can’t do it for everyone.”

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Keep it 100

One love, One Spirit


 

Clues to Your Calling & Destiny

How does one find out what their calling, their vocation, or their destiny is?

This is a question I battled with and sometimes still battle with.

It is quite a journey and for me it has been hard and it has taken me over 8 years to put – some of it – together. In the beginning, it was blurry. I just knew what page God was on in my book of life and destiny and where in the future he was calling from.

But, like Father Abraham, I had no idea what to do, where to go, or how to go about it. It was a cold call – cold turkey.

My journey has been about learning the nuances of “God’s call to us” and sharing the process. It has involved stepping out of myself to see the work and the hand of the divine working on myself while doing life myself.

It now involves sharing what I have experienced to be the MOST IMPORTANT pieces to keep in mind or work with in order to help friends, family, and others make that practical shift and take action not on their own, but as a community.

That’s why I started this blog.

Recently, while listening to Rabbi Sacks discussing a weekly bible portion on Leviticus, he shared some thoughts and clues to identifying your vocation which I thought was awesome. I saw myself in the process. In his article, he quoted the late Michael Novak in, Business as a Calling: work and the examined life, shared these four characteristics to identifying your calling:

Firstit is unique to you.

Secondyou have the talent for it.

Thirdit is something which, when you do it, gives you a sense of enjoyment and renewed energy.

Fourthdo not expect it to reveal itself immediately. You may have to follow many paths that turn out to be false before you find the true one.

*Does this give you any idea as to what your calling is? Does it clue you in? What came to your mind when you read this? I hope at the very least, it helps you.

Next, I will post on the difference between what you are good at, what you do, and what you are called to do.

Until next time, I wish you good health and prosperity.

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Keep it 100

One love, One Spirit


  1. Rabbi Jonathan Sacks, The Call (Vayikra 5778), Rabbisacks.org 

First, Improve the World before Perfecting Yourself – here’s why

And…Its all about timing

I know, I know…sounds like marlarkey – meaningless talk, nonsense…! But, I assure you, it isn’t it.

In the previous post, Your Calling vs. Your Mission, I shared the following quote:

Improving the world around us comes before perfecting our own inner world ~ Mendel Kalmenson

Then I asked the question –

Did you notice the twist in that quote? Well, did you?

Its true. Transformation begins on the inside before it can be expressed on the outside. It only makes sense to work on yourself first before you work on the world. One must blow the flames of God’s word and God’s call in their souls first so that the heat of their fire can bring warmth to those around them.

But,

Do you have to “perfect” yourself first to before improving the world around you? When a house is on fire, anyone who can carry a bucket of water to put out the flame is required to.

When you work on yourself and obtain some wisdom, knowledge, or understanding, begin improving the world around you. Find a need, a problem and speak or write or contribute a thought, an idea, an alternative to it.

You have little to share. God can multiply your two loaves and five fishes to feed the 5000. Have faith to share the little you have. That’s all he needs

You don’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to perfect your craft to do something. Perfecting yourself means focusing largely on yourself most of the time to build up strengths and develop weaknesses. It means perfecting your craft before crafting something to share.

But, that means the world around you will keep burning and sobbing because you “voice” is silent. That voice may be public speaking, art, singing, comedy, acting, painting, drawing, teaching, writing, blogging, designing, finance…you know yourself.

By the way, perfect may never be attained. Any true master knows there must remain a student of life and their craft. So –

If you have come to a point where you can offer something, do it. Start now! If not now, when? If not you, who? If not here, where?

Don’t forget –

Done, is better than perfect 

And though it is necessary to work on yourself, it is NOT required for you to become perfect to offer what little you have that is currently needed to put out the flames of evil confusing beautiful souls and destroying your part of the world.

Its all about the timing. 

Work on yourself first. Do good work yes. Push to be excellent, to be perfect – yes! But, prioritize your decision to improve the world around first, before pushing to be perfect.

Ideas inspire! Actions achieve

 

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Keep it 100

One love, One Spirit


 

Your Calling vs. Your Mission

A calling is a vocation, something other, from your day job or what you do everyday. A calling is God’s call to you from the future. He is already there, sees you as He knows you are capable of becoming if you say – yes – to his ultimate adventure.

It means in your “book of destiny”, God is on Page 898 and seeing you at page 127 is saying to at Page 127,

Hey there! I know you don’t know me or know what will happen in your life. But, if you focus on this mighty task which I would like for you to consider pursuing in additional to all your other responsibilities and life in general, and if you calibrate your compass to follow this divine map, you’ll meet me on page 898 in the future. Along the way, you will experience me, meet or get to know my Son, and receive help from my Spirit. Are you in?”

When God calls you, it means you are not there yet. You are not that person yet. You are not “it” yet. It means you have a ways to go. But, here’s the sad thing –

Your calling can remain only that – a calling – if you don’t turn that calling into a mission. That’s when things change. It depends on your perception

When God calls you, that’s it – He calls you – to a possibly remarkable future or personal experience of knowing His capabilities. You can talk about it, rejoice over it, write about it….but until you start “seeing that calling as a personal mission” you risk letting your calling remain a calling.

Yes, you have a calling. But, if you see each and every day as an opportunity to live that calling to the fullest; if you see every day as an opportunity to perform a single tasks that fulfills the potential of that calling – things shift.

Don’ t worry about the provision, big meetings, divine connections, and big break that may happen down the line. God will provide. He’ll make a way. Like me, you may feel jealous. You may be tempted to judge yourself by likes, follows, and so on. But, keep your cool. Be relentless in your mission.

Even if you feel like you want it to be all about the money, do what you can about this mission until what you do becomes a part of you and subsequently has little to do with wanting money, fame, or resources

Each day, find an opportunity to bless, empower, inspire, lift…up a soul with the little you have. Words can heal the world…of someone or a homeland. Start with that. Daily Instagram posts or positive Facebook updates is a good start.

Phone calls, sms’s, letters, reports…are other forms. Asking questions, suggestions, feedback, seeking help, or attempting to tryout for opportunities you may be qualified or under qualified for is another start. Have faith. Take the risk! Its worth it.

A calling is from God and calls you to the future. When you turn it into a mission, something you can act upon daily with baby steps,  it becomes personal. You own it. It becomes a personal responsibility and makes you an active co-author of your destiny.

If you have learned the basics of something or in some way have overcome in life, love, laughter, wisdom, beauty, Anorexia, business, politics…then you know enough to start filling the void in our young, a void left by the absence of parents, the arrogance of elites, and the ignorance of those insisting on maintaining unhelpful bureaucratic systems.

Improving the world around us comes before perfecting our own inner world ~ Mendel Kalmenson.

Did you notice the twist in that quote? I’ll share that later.

Until then….

Turn your lifelong calling (from heaven) into a mission which you observe to do daily with baby steps in the right direction. Start with a word, a positive phrase, a blessing, a gift, a message, a phone call, a sentence, an application, a business plan….! Just do it!

Again – anything that needs to be done should be done right away.

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Keep it real, keep it simple

One love, One Spirit

Life is NOT full of surprises, YOU ARE!


 

Power Introductions

God’s greatest gifts are people and He sends his gifts to you when you are about to enter a new level of your mission here on earth. People connect and complete the circle of your destiny.

Whatever it is you are asking God for, it is in other people, in the hands of other people, in the hearts and minds of other people who may very well be right next to you.

But here’s the thing.

God can touch hearts, inspire people to think and favor you. What He won’t do is do the loving and talking for you. God will send you his gifts, his people, his friends. But –

If you don’t pick up the scent of God’s favor through the people he sends who may very well be unconventional; if you don’t love and respect them, they will leave you: they will walk away. And yes, your blessings will too

God said he’d help you. But don’t get it twisted.

If you act like a jerk…you’ll lose them.

Power introductions have an influence on your destiny and here’s why and some examples you can use and build on – Continue reading “Power Introductions”

The Four Way Test

Listen! You are light and you are life. You cannot be hidden. Bloom! Shine!

Jesus said that “You are the light of the world” and “A city built on a hill cannot be hidden.”

If the light of the world lives in you, that makes you light too. If the one called wonderful dwells in you, that makes you wonderful too. But –

So what? How does it help your people and the community that you are life, light, and wonderful?

Continue reading “The Four Way Test”

Put Your Best Foot Forward

Suffering brings courage – 1st Female African President (Ellen J. Sirleaf)

Things get tough. You won’t always feel like yourself. You may feel overpowered by unwanted thoughts. You may lack the strength to encourage yourself in the Lord. You may lack the motivation to be relentless.

1) Even so, keep pushing, keep talking. If necessary, “Be still and know…” just be still for its own sake. Say nothing. Do nothing. Just be.

2) Big decisions are a culmination of small actions. Just do them – do the little things.

3) In the words of Rabbi Sacks, “First build a future. Only then can you mourn the past. If you reverse the order, you’ll be trapped in the past.”

4) If you are already trapped in the past, only one thing’s left for you Continue reading “Put Your Best Foot Forward”

Done is Better

Done is better than perfect – Greg McKeown

Don’t let your desire to be perfect in execution make you forget what’s most important – your voice being heard – even if you don’t have all the ideas to share yet

It is your voice. Your destiny is in your voice. All you can do is use it to begin touching lives so those lives can touch cities.

You would be right – in an ideal situation, getting everything together, all the ideas, the learning before sharing is better. But when there is a fire 🔥 raging, everyone who can lift a bucket must help put it out. Continue reading “Done is Better”

BIG DECISIONS

Making decisions is a humbling process, especially if they’re are BIG. Great leaders (Churchill, MLK, Gandhi, Mandela) all had to do it. For it’s in the moment of decision that our destiny is shaped!

You are a great leader. But you have to make big decisions to become great ~ Ish’mael (Destiny Class)

1.) Interestingly, BIG decisions come with equal part sense of EXCITEMENT and TERROR. Like making a big investment, proposing to a loved one, moving to a new city or starting a new venture.

It’s hard to be INDIFFERENT when making these big decisions. If you are truly indifferent, then the decision is probably not big enough. Continue reading “BIG DECISIONS”

Start Before You Are Ready

When I had the vision and started building #Threelly (www.threelly.com), I had no idea what I was doing or if it will even succeed.

But I STARTED nonetheless

Fast forward a few moons ahead, the site is up running, a vibrant community has been built curating and slicing some of the best videos on the web to expose hidden ideas. Had I waited to be ready, this will never have happened.

1.) Most people wait for the perfect timing before they do anything. Perfect timing to start a business, finish school, get married, be happy, e.t.c. Perfect timing doesn’t exist and any person looking for one is simply just making excuses to avoid taking action.

2.) A Chinese proverb reminds us

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” .

3.) So, stop making excuses! Stop waiting for the PERFECT time! Stop waiting to be ready! Start taking action! Start now! Start small and grow!

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Stay Humble! Stay Strong!

By Fru Louis

#frulouis (instagram)