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Dating Etiquette for the Social Media OBSESSED — BeautyBeyondBones

Part of fulfilling your destiny is finding someone amazing to spend the rest of your life with and build the vision the Good Lord ignites in you.

If you are a guy and looking, here are some pointers from one of my favorite bloggers.

I promise, you’ll love it.

Caralyn, writer behind Beauty Beyond Bones has this to say

Romance is a dying art. Truly. In the age of smart phones, Snapchat and communicating through emojis, dating is, frankly, limping along like a squirrel run over by a semi. Too much? Perhaps. But in this era of 140 character expression, chivalry has taken a hit. Which poses the question, what are we to expect…

via Dating Etiquette for the Social Media OBSESSED — BeautyBeyondBones

Butterfly v. Creative Negativity

~ Iron sharpens iron  ~

This has been on my mind for a while. I have been working with someone whose pessimism about life is breath-taking. My goodness! For instance, he says things like –

You can’t get a good job because you are black.

This is what is wrong with this country…

This generation is lazy, good for nothings…

Robots are going to take all the jobs and make people unemployed…

Basically, everything is going down…

Its like he always finds a reason to make depression a reality. Yep. He’s from “that” generation alright. Or maybe its just the age. And though I love and appreciate him, his thoughts might be rubbing off on me. And when he told me he watches the news all the time, I was like –

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…makes sense…

Recently, after sharing his heart about how hopeless the future would be, I challenged his views. I told him –

There are people out there who will transform this world. Young people who will inspire hope, engage in societal reformation, embody transformation…and more. Don’t be surprised to see a sudden breakthrough of young folks inspired by the Divine doing great things next year. I am confident of it.

Though he insisted that this was not possible, I added,

I disagree sir, but there is. You don’t see them because there are not where you’ll typically look. And there a lot of young adults who are already making that change. I am fortunate to know and be connected with some of them. You might not see them because they are a remnant…waiting for the appointed time. A tree is first a seed and when it is a seed, you can’t see it.

That’s why God hides this type of people until it is time for them to emerge. You will see them in 2018. You will have reason to hope. You can either retire to some remote place as you plan and watch the change happen or you can keep at your craft while watching and participating in the change. I guess its up to you.

Personally, I was thinking I wouldn’t want “you” around me with this barrage of creative negativity.

Though I may have been affected by this barrage of hopelessness recently, I am constantly encouraged by the work of friends and family who are breaking ground. Folks like this proof that there is hope and a remnant in our generation bringing the transforming power of His presence into the streets and marketplace.

So –

Meet Ria Githuku (link to instagram)

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Our meeting was a supernatural one. It was – destiny. I stepped out of a church service to get something and saw two people loving, comforting, and praying for someone. One of them was wearing a prayer shawl. I ignored it. A few secs later, I discerned that sweet still small voice say – “Go over there and pray with them.” And – go – I did.

Turns out, the guy was Eli – remember him? And the classy lady with the prayer shawl was Ria Githuku, one of the most talented female singers I have ever met. She’s an actor too. Pure artistic genuis. We have become friends.

Listen to her new single below.

Like many of you, this beautiful mademoiselle has gone through rock and hard places. She has been tested by fire, her faith tested like gold…you know, and every other unforeseen circumstance that is attracted to people of faith. You know, the usual.

But, she remains faithful and her song is her testimony.

If iron sharpens iron, then I am glad she and the Shabbat family sharpens me. Ria together with many of you are part of the change heaven is releasing on the earth. You are God’s gifts, God’s surprise, for this age of hopelessness and depression. Keep on keeping on.

I asked Ria to share some wisdom and encouragement. With love, she sends her thoughts and regards to you and your family. In her own words –

When my dream became being in the center of God’s will, following my dreams always led me into the center of His heart, where there is no rejection, no disappointment, no striving, no inadequacy – just Love and trust in the fact that I will be led into the absolute best destiny for my life! There is complete freedom in following Jesus because He has bigger dreams and higher hopes for us than we could ever have for ourselves!!

I have found who I really am in Him, my purpose, what I was born for, or at least I have started to unearth it. I am a worshiper of the living God and a deep lover of His people. With my song, my words, my communion with Him, and my heart of compassion for people, worship flows from me like living water. This is what we are all called to although it will look different for each of us.

FALL IN LOVE WITH JESUS – SEEK HIS FACE, AND YOU WILL LITERALLY HAVE EVERYTHING YOU WILL EVER NEED, AND MORE!!! ❤❤❤

 

Well –

There you have it. Seek his face. In short – Seek first the Lord and his kingdom and all other things will be added unto you. Don’t give up guys. Press in.

Life is hard. Holding onto the promises of God and doing life is harder still.

That’s because every “promise” of God to you must be tested. Every single one! But run the race. Keep the faith. And ask God for folks like Ria who like iron will sharpen you with hope. You are blessed and highly favored.

Thank you Ria for your wisdom and for the gift of friendship and divinely inspired music that drives away hopeless thoughts with love. And now, I raise my glass to you Ria; to friends and family everywhere who are boldly traversing the valley of the shadow of death in pain and in peace –

 

Cheers!

One Love, One Spirit


PS: Butterfly represents being transformed by the renewing of their minds to do what HE calls them to do. Creative Negativity is the metamorphosis of the negativity (doubt, pain, persecution etc) we have to overcome to become who we really are and do what we are born to do.

Gifts that Speak

Hello fam –

How are you doing? How was your weekend? Gist me in the comment. I hope all went well. So…bible talks.

I came across an intriguing thought….again! Just like in You Have the Green Light, this thought is also inspired by Father Abraham.

Here’s a brief from Genesis 12.

Abraham left his family, hometown, and birthplace taking his nephew, Lot with him. But they later separated. Some politics went on in the Canaan territory ending up in Lot, his family, and his possession being taken by four Kings who attacked Sodom and Gomorrah.

Abraham was informed of his nephew’s situation. Feeling compassionate, Abram staged an overnight rescue mission. It was successful. He rescued Lot and everything that was taken. Abraham also took the spoils and prisoners of war along with him. The prisoners of war were from the city of Sodom. Genesis 14:1-16 chronicles the showdown if you are interested.

Then King/High Priest Melchizedek and the King of Sodom enter the scene. Their discussion is the center of my intrigue. Both Kings go out to commend Abram for his success.

Abram talks with Melchizedek. Its seems to be a friendly, fulfilled…conversation. We read,

Then Melchizedek king of Salem brought out bread and wine. He was priest of God Most High, and he blessed Abram, saying, – “Blessed be Abram by God Most High, Creator of heaven and earth. And praise be to God Most High, who delivered your enemies into your hand.” Then Abram gave him a tenth of everything – Gen 14:20

Following Abram’s discussion with King Melchizedek is an interjection from the King of Sodom. We read:

The King of Sodom said to Abram, “Keep the loot, but give me back all my people” – Gen 14:21

Abram answered,

I solemnly swear before the Lord, the Most High God, Maker of heaven and earth, that I will not keep anything of yours, not even a thread or a sandal strap. Then you can never say, ‘I am the one who made Abram rich.’ I will take nothing for myself. I will accept only what my men have used – Gen 14:22-24

Woo woo woo…!!! Wait a minute.

What happened to the sweet and hospitable Abram? Continue reading “Gifts that Speak”

And HE Said To Me…

Hello fam –

Have you ever done something so stupid you tried to change your name, identity, and your existence after? Something so stupid you can’t believe you did it? Something so uncool that even though you are redeemed, the memories can’t seem to fade and shame is a constant stain?

Well, I’ve been there.

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About two years ago, I made a mistake so terrible that left me feeling regret and remorse.  Its too embarrassing for me to share with you just yet. But, I was ashamed for the longest. Afraid to even show my face in public. The voice of the accuser finally had evidence against me. I couldn’t stop thinking –

How could I have let my fears get the better of me? How could I have been so dumb as to use fear, instead of faith, as an anchor? What type of person would others see me as? How could I even think myself a decent child of God now?

As I wallowed in shame and despair about my blunder and my identity, another voice joined the conversation. This voice interjected my thoughts and decided to tell me a story. Guess who the other voice was?

That’s right…it was our friend, our helper, our counselor, our teacher, the comforter –

The Holy Spirit

It was the most shocking thing. His voice wasn’t audible, but it was clear enough for me to count it as a supernatural experience. Clear enough for me to still remember it and share it with you now.

And so HE said –

Continue reading “And HE Said To Me…”

You Have the Green Light!

Hello fam –

How was your weekend? I hope you had a refreshing one. Tell me about it in the comments. Today, I want to share a little Monday motivation. So, I’ll get right to it.

This is how Genesis 12 begins –

Get yourself out of your country, away from your kinsmen and away from your father’s house, and go to the land that I will show you. I will make of you a great nation, I will bless you, and I will make your name great; and you are to be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, but I will curse anyone who curses you; and by you all the families of the earth will be blessed (Gen 12:1-3).”

That voice was wind, the still small voice, the voice of the Almighty, calling Abraham from the future to the future (the same voice that calls you). Abraham could have settled and lived a normal life where he was. Instead he chose – mission “impossible” with God.

I guess for us believers –

Destiny – God’s call to us from the future to the future – is the new normal

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To meet with the God of destiny, Abraham had to walk into his future. Sure, Abraham was told to leave his comfort zone but He was not told where to go either.

Sound familiar? Continue reading “You Have the Green Light!”

THE MAIN ATTRACTION

Okay! Question.

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If you planned on visiting Hollywood and actually did, what would be a memorable experience for you? Would it be –

  1. Going up to take a photo at the Hollywood sign
  2. Hiking on the “Walk of Fame” on Hollywood Boulevard – OR –
  3. Actually walking into or meeting and talking with a Hollywood star?

[Share your answers in the comments]

~ $10 says you go for option 3 ~ (Any wagers?)

But, here’s my point.

A place is NOT about the place: its about the people in that place

[Me and Anthony Anderson chit-chating about life] Continue reading “THE MAIN ATTRACTION”

IDEAL CIRCUMSTANCES? (what do you think)

Hello fam,

So, a while back this thought came to mind –

In life, you won’t always have ideal circumstances, but you will always have opportunities in un-ideal circumstances for advancement.

Nothing is ideal.

The world is not ideal. Our circumstances are not ideal. People are not ideal. The stars won’t always line up for you to be able to make your move, date, marry, or start a business. Even when we hope for the ideal times to take a risk, they never come.

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…Ughh…ain’t that the truth…

And if you are waiting for that ideal thing or person, gifts and blessings will always pass you by. But, indulge me for a sec.

I noticed that in the midst of the un-ideal circumstances are silent opportunities, echoed only by the wind.

You won’t see these opportunities. You won’t hear them. But for a brief moment, you will feel the breeze of one or two opportunities caress your countenance. ONLY for a brief moment.

*If you are adamant about perfection, perfect circumstances, and ideal circumstances, you will likely dismiss silent opportunities too quickly. You will brush it off as a temptation and miss the God moments, signs, numbers, symbols, and signals. You may miss God’s voice in the mundane and the unconventional.

*If you have an open mind, you will pick up the scent. And perhaps you will debate in your mind the outcome of either choosing to pursue set ideals or risk taking the opportunity in front of you. (NB: I’m not talking about values and ethics. Just life).

*You may consider that going with the opportunity you find. But of you, this choice will require great honesty on your part. Honesty about what is currently possible about your situation.

Honesty about what the current limits, boundaries, and restrictions of your situation are. And honesty as well as a painful admission about whether you are willing to pay the price to overcome set obstacles and limitations.

The choice will always be yours.

We don’t live in a world of fairy tales and happy endings.

THIS IS THE REAL WORLD. WE ARE LIVING IT

We can’t always make situations ideal but we can at least grow toward becoming our ideal selves

What makes our failures, hopes, ruined expectations…painful is hope deferred.

That’s because we have to contend with life living its own life. Life has a life of its own. It has its own good days and bad days.

But, even as we contend with what we wish were an ideal set of circumstances for our lives at the moment of pondering a decision, there will always be hope.

There will always be an opportunity or a possibility in the midst of un-ideal circumstances to chose something, chose someone, or make a simple choice that can be a long term blessing. But that will require some mental, emotional, and physical work.

That’s for sure. So –

We may not have ideal circumstances. But we can manage and have the ability to shift our journeys and circumstances toward the ideal side of the life spectrum after the fact

On the other hand –

Failure to take an opportunity just because circumstances are not ideal may become the one pivotal thing in life that you look back on as failure. Regardless of that, you can become a pirate of your crisis. So –

Work with the ideal in mind but plan elaborately for the worst and for alternatives. Better yet, “Lean not on your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge the Lord and He will order your step (Proverbs 3:5).”

This is the real world.

Even so, its in the midst of us living “in the real world” and being a part of it that makes the work of the Almighty in us and through us a light, a delight, and a testimony.

CIRCLE OF COMPETENCE: Stories & Application

Okay fam!

Honest!

Did you enjoy reading the Circle of Competence: Your Gifts & Talents? Was it helpful? Did it resonate with you? [Please let me know. Good or bad, it helps me grow].

(If you didn’t already, I encourage you to read it. This post is a continuation of the explanation of The Life-cycle of your Gifts and Talents)

In the first post about your Circle of Competence, I ended on the note that you can trace your steps from uncertainty, obsession, and desire back to your gift. Let me demonstrate that insight with a true story. Continue reading “CIRCLE OF COMPETENCE: Stories & Application”

Gifts that Keep On Giving

Phew…what a crazy week!

I just got back home from Christmas shopping and….boy…let…me…tell you! It was cray-cray at the mall, y’all. The mall was packed and the lines were just unbelievable. I am thankful I got a few things though.

(Between…I will make it rain socks on christmas day lol. But…)

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For me, its not about the gifts. The best gift is the experience that created around the gift and the funkiness that stains the recipient of set gift. For our loved ones, our helpers, our encouragers, friends…taking time to craft a a whole scene around a simple gift is worth it.

So, I wish to share some of the gifts I received this year and then share some thoughts that these gifts remind me of. So, here we go.

Meet Louis

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Louis and I grew up and went to school in Africa where we became classmates. Then in high school, we were bench mates, but we were never close. Fast forward 8 years later when we reconnected in Minnesota.

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Over time, we have become close friends. Turns out we share similar values, passions, thoughts. And not long after our Minnesota meeting, Louis created a groundbreaking program –  Threelly – that has the potential to literally transform how we watch videos and interact with ideas. I have had the opportunity to partner and work with him on this. Needless to say we have seen God open up doors we could not have dreamed of.

The opportunity is all good. The adventures and miracles have been wonderful. But, I think I figured it out. It was Louis! Louis was the gift – God’s gift to me. A friend who empowers, encourages, cherishes, celebrates, and challenges me. And this gift keeps on giving. I see it now.

My grandma is over a century old now. She sent me off to the West with this blessing –

Love all people. Respect all people. And be each other’s keeper…

See folks!

When you pray for help, miracles, etc…, God will send people. People are the best miracles. But, if you don’t love them, they will leave you without releasing or before realizing they were to supposed to release what you prayed for.

That’s why grandma in hindsight emphasized  – Love all people my son. Respect all people. And I see Louis and so many others as a gift that results from me walking in granny’s counsel. Thank you Louis – for everything!

Now! Meet mi familia.

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These are my people, my tribe, my friends, my pride, my joy….my jewel. You know you are moving to the next level of your destiny when God brings folks like these into your life (See the post – A New Measure).

Gauge every new level of success by the quality and quantity of your relationships each time you graduate a one destiny class and move on to the next.

Time would fail me to tell you how we met (just over 3 months ago) and the miracles that have happened since. We have traversed California, hiking, praying, dancing to salsa, eating, innovating, working, planning…and doing great things. We have shared stories, struggles, concerns…and become very close. They are a huge blessing to me. I hope I am to them.

See folks! I believe in miracles. Miracles happen. Ask Miracle Yello – BBB. But, what I have discovered is this –

Yes, Miracles happen. However, a lot more miracles tend to happen when you are in community.

Thank you God for these gifts that just cannot stop giving. Baruch Hashem!

Then –

There is YOU!

Yes – YOU – reading this post right now. You are THE MAIN ATTRACTION.

Its not by chance. Its not a coincidence that you either followed, read, or liked something I wrote. And its not a coincidence that it led me to you and what you wrote. You too have blessed and inspired me.

Thank you for reading, liking, and even commenting on my blog. Its a big deal to me. I am not sure if what I share with you is helpful. I am just glad to be able to do it and have the opportunity to connect with you creative geniuses who have been touched and inspired by the the Spirit of the Almighty.

I would like to have tea/coffee with you all whenever if that’s possible. Meeting and connecting with folks like you is my passion. I hope you would indulge me.

thanks

So –

Thank you BBB for your blog – beautybeyondbones. You truly are a Miracle Yello. You empower many of us to be real. And I find so much joy in reading your blog. Thank you my friend.

Also, thanks to –

Transit Address, Lovemessage27, Complianc4All, Simply Ula, Amphibioussoul, Inked Shrink, Maurice, Red Letters, The Godly Chic Dairies, Wildsound Review, Healthy Lifestyle, Empowered Everyday blog, K.C., Zachary, Good Vibes Nation, Crazy Aunty Cyn, Tatiana Ketchum, James Edgar Skye, Leo, Your Notebook Driver, Laurabon, Ccaliz, Extracting Value, Belike Water Production, Revinfotech, Selvia Fei, Philip Ruskins, Yuri, Damon Ashworth, and my lil bro – Alain. Thanks for following and reading.

Et a vous – La Paradie de Noemie! Merci pour suivre et lire mon blog.

You all encourage me to keep on going.

In this Cyber-verse, I find that the following counsel still translates to the WordPress Universe –

The adventure and experience of any place or thing is IN THE PEOPLE in any place you want to visit. They are the MAIN attraction. Visit other attractions – Yes! But make sure to spend some good time with the main attractions – the people.

That’s all I have to share with you today. Thanks again for reading. If what I write blesses you in anyway, let me know. Don’t be shy (lol). Also –

WATCH OUT!!! for one more post – A Christmas Special – coming this weekend

That said –

I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year in Advance as we celebrate THE FIRST GIFT that keeps on giving – JESUS!

 

One Love, One Spirit