Tag: Destiny

Answer People NOT Questions

Hello folks,

This is going to be an excellent year.

When I was studying Torah (bible) with a Rabbi and while I was learning from Chabad in the Midwest, I came across a saying. And this quote has become one of my favorite and has been shaping my approach to communication since. It is –

A Rabbi answers questions but a Rebbe answers people.

A Rebbe is a Rabbi, but one who has an intimate connection to his God, his people, his people’s experiences, his community, his own experience, and a wealth of wisdom and insight from the God who made and knows the people.

For instance this is my version of a story of my favorite Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson, taken from the book Seeds of Wisdom – 2, written by Mendel Kalmenson:

A young Rabbi who had a fledgling business came to see the Rebbe because he was feeling overwhelmed. He was hoping to find out where to cut back and where to focus. Instead, the Rebbe said to him,

Not only should you NOT cut back your activities, but you should increase your outreach efforts, your rabbinic work, and also your business.”

Now, tell me this. Did that answer the question? Did this answer even sound like it answered the person? Continue reading “Answer People NOT Questions”

DON’T SAY IT!

This is going to be an excellent year folks. Better believe it.

I want to tell you an interesting story. A short one.

Recently, I was introduced to a new customer. We became friends and on one of my visits, we shared stories. Turns out my new friend had been a missionary and returned from the field to do enter the market.

First, she engaged in civil service. She was a Data Entry personnel. She also formatted software codes. While at it, she realized she loved the idea of coding. She had a 6th sense for it. She became a software technician after obtaining college education. She then started her own business.

All this followed a discussion about – The Need to Bring Your Dreams to Life – for which I was looking for feedback. While she listened to a recording of it, she stopped. And with a heavy heart, she told me of an idea she once had to start and run a business project abroad which involved training young girls.

She knew it was inspiration from heaven. However, she did nothing and she was basically expressing regret. Here’ what happened. Continue reading “DON’T SAY IT!”

You Have the Green Light!

Hello fam –

How was your weekend? I hope you had a refreshing one. Tell me about it in the comments. Today, I want to share a little Monday motivation. So, I’ll get right to it.

This is how Genesis 12 begins –

Get yourself out of your country, away from your kinsmen and away from your father’s house, and go to the land that I will show you. I will make of you a great nation, I will bless you, and I will make your name great; and you are to be a blessing. I will bless those who bless you, but I will curse anyone who curses you; and by you all the families of the earth will be blessed (Gen 12:1-3).”

That voice was wind, the still small voice, the voice of the Almighty, calling Abraham from the future to the future (the same voice that calls you). Abraham could have settled and lived a normal life where he was. Instead he chose – mission “impossible” with God.

I guess for us believers –

Destiny – God’s call to us from the future to the future – is the new normal

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To meet with the God of destiny, Abraham had to walk into his future. Sure, Abraham was told to leave his comfort zone but He was not told where to go either.

Sound familiar? Continue reading “You Have the Green Light!”

THE ONLY WAY TO LIVE IN THE 21ST CENTURY

Happy Holidays Happy People,

Christmas is upon us. And I am really excited – for no particular reason. Okay, I expect some good surprises. You know – gifts, family, friends, food, drinks…the usual. And maybe I’ll be lucky enough to kiss a girl under the mistletoe…(Hey, I believe in miracles okay).

Yes! I believe.

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B…u…t, my point is – I am excited and fell awkward at the same time. No shame, no gain!

To begin the season (The entire December), here is a christmas carol – Silent Night – sung in the ? – Language. That’s right. There is a language called “?”.

Think I’m kidding? Well, check out this funky fellow sing Silent Night in “?.”  This is the BEST SILENT NIGHT I have listened to – EVER!!! Be sure to share it with family and friends. It makes the atmosphere a little – merrier – yes? Its my own way of sharing the merriness.

A….ny….way!

I have a brief thought to share today.

I heard someone say that a bottle of beer after a days work is a therapeutic. Well, instead of that, you did you one good.

I brought Elvis “back to life” in my little chateau and asked him to set a jazzy mood to relieve you of stress while you read my brief thought.

[Elvis – just for you! Listen and read on]

Folks!

Its the 21st century. The world is already a risky place. You could get pranked by someone who straps a fake bomb on a dog and makes the dog chase you. Your dog could be drugged and stolen in the middle of the night for no reason (Snoopy, my mom’s dog got nicked last week. No joke).

People are going cray-cray out there. (I think they need Jesus!)

Sans the shootings and bombings, there are many uncontrollable variables out there that can make our lives, our dreams, and the fulfillment of our destiny a living hell. But, locking our truest identities in “internal prisons” and marooning ourselves in our “safe spaces” won’t do us any good either.

It is the 21st century alright. The world is already a risky place.

The only way to learn, live, grow, and succeed nowadays is to learn the language of the age. And the first rule to living in a risky world is this – Take risks. This season, do something a tart different for a change. Practice the new language of the age.

For instance –

Dance freely. Salsa with the breeze. Give freely even if you don’t feel the utopia. Travel freely on the byways and highways.  Love relentlessly. Forgive quickly. Reconcile immediately. You’ve got imagination – employ it. Each moment is a treasure – enjoy it. 

Voila!

Success – whatever that means to you – is the destination. Lifelong learning is the journey. Risk is the vehicle.

 

That’s why –

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I am going to kiss a sweet and fancy mademoiselle under the mistletoe (Oui). If you are a fine dame reading this, assume I will claim plausible deniability for writing this post if it turns out to be you (Hahaha).

Seriously though!

Take risks…! As my friend, Louis would say –

Life is too short to be boring.

And as you practice taking risks this season, think of this song by K.T Tunsall. It’ll help you have fun while as you play “real life do or dare.” It will make your bloopers and awkward moments seem a little cheek.

So let me remind you –

Life is not full of surprises – YOU ARE.

So, take risks!

I hope you enjoyed my attempt at making you laugh. If not, I’ll do better next time. But, I hope you enjoyed the songs and the brief thought. Thank you for reading my posts. Your likes, comments, and encouragement mean a lot to me. Thanks again. I love you guys.


 

IDEAL CIRCUMSTANCES? (what do you think)

Hello fam,

So, a while back this thought came to mind –

In life, you won’t always have ideal circumstances, but you will always have opportunities in un-ideal circumstances for advancement.

Nothing is ideal.

The world is not ideal. Our circumstances are not ideal. People are not ideal. The stars won’t always line up for you to be able to make your move, date, marry, or start a business. Even when we hope for the ideal times to take a risk, they never come.

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…Ughh…ain’t that the truth…

And if you are waiting for that ideal thing or person, gifts and blessings will always pass you by. But, indulge me for a sec.

I noticed that in the midst of the un-ideal circumstances are silent opportunities, echoed only by the wind.

You won’t see these opportunities. You won’t hear them. But for a brief moment, you will feel the breeze of one or two opportunities caress your countenance. ONLY for a brief moment.

*If you are adamant about perfection, perfect circumstances, and ideal circumstances, you will likely dismiss silent opportunities too quickly. You will brush it off as a temptation and miss the God moments, signs, numbers, symbols, and signals. You may miss God’s voice in the mundane and the unconventional.

*If you have an open mind, you will pick up the scent. And perhaps you will debate in your mind the outcome of either choosing to pursue set ideals or risk taking the opportunity in front of you. (NB: I’m not talking about values and ethics. Just life).

*You may consider that going with the opportunity you find. But of you, this choice will require great honesty on your part. Honesty about what is currently possible about your situation.

Honesty about what the current limits, boundaries, and restrictions of your situation are. And honesty as well as a painful admission about whether you are willing to pay the price to overcome set obstacles and limitations.

The choice will always be yours.

We don’t live in a world of fairy tales and happy endings.

THIS IS THE REAL WORLD. WE ARE LIVING IT

We can’t always make situations ideal but we can at least grow toward becoming our ideal selves

What makes our failures, hopes, ruined expectations…painful is hope deferred.

That’s because we have to contend with life living its own life. Life has a life of its own. It has its own good days and bad days.

But, even as we contend with what we wish were an ideal set of circumstances for our lives at the moment of pondering a decision, there will always be hope.

There will always be an opportunity or a possibility in the midst of un-ideal circumstances to chose something, chose someone, or make a simple choice that can be a long term blessing. But that will require some mental, emotional, and physical work.

That’s for sure. So –

We may not have ideal circumstances. But we can manage and have the ability to shift our journeys and circumstances toward the ideal side of the life spectrum after the fact

On the other hand –

Failure to take an opportunity just because circumstances are not ideal may become the one pivotal thing in life that you look back on as failure. Regardless of that, you can become a pirate of your crisis. So –

Work with the ideal in mind but plan elaborately for the worst and for alternatives. Better yet, “Lean not on your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge the Lord and He will order your step (Proverbs 3:5).”

This is the real world.

Even so, its in the midst of us living “in the real world” and being a part of it that makes the work of the Almighty in us and through us a light, a delight, and a testimony.

SOMEONE HAS TO!

In the Circle of Vision which I wrote before this, I established that where there is no platform for a type of dream or vision, one has to be built.

A personal dream or vision will be difficult to actualize or fully realize without any national visionary platform to support those dreams and visions. And where there isn’t one – if there is no national visionary platform for freedom, a specific dream, or genre of skill, then the dreams and visions of the people perish.

And –

If there is no platform, then one would need to be built.

Someone or some people will have to put their own dreams and visions aside to pursue the vision of building a platform for a people’s collective and individual visions to stand on.

Someone! Anyone – has to pay the price to build it.

Once that happens, then that volunteer can return to dreaming and journeying to establish personal visions in whatever field they chose or began.

In this post, I share one of my favorite examples. It involves soccer. More than that – women’s soccer. I was raised by women, cared for by women and supported by women. Plus, my brother played professional soccer in Europe.

So yes! I am passionate about soccer and Women’s Soccer for that matter.

It brings out the NINJA in me. Continue reading “SOMEONE HAS TO!”

WHY DO “THEY” PROSPER & I DON’T, EVEN THOUGH I SAID YES TO GOD? – PART 2

In this post, I wish to share the next set of responses to Kenny’s questions.  If you haven’t read Part 1 of this post, I encourage you to do so to get the full story. Simply click here. In brief, I was responding to a bunch of questions a young, passionate, and enthusiastic Christian man posed during a difficult time of his life. Kenny asked,

Why is that I am following God and doing everything right but I am not prospering? Instead, it seems those who aren’t following God are prospering. How come these problems never end? I am tired man. Why do things just seem hard even after I have given God a hundred percent? How come it seems like things are working for other people and seems to come easy to others while for me its a fight…? Its not fair…! This faith thing must be a lie.

Part 1 focused on person and his connections. This post will be centered on the theme of blessing. It is a real treat because I personally enjoy the answers here. Don’t forget to comment with your thoughts. It puts a smile on my face to read from you.

FYI – Kenny’s response is at the end! Continue reading “WHY DO “THEY” PROSPER & I DON’T, EVEN THOUGH I SAID YES TO GOD? – PART 2″

WHY DO “THEY” PROSPER & I DON’T, EVEN THOUGH I SAID YES TO GOD? – PART 1

You said yes to God. You have given 100% to follow him. You have been at it for years. Still, things are stalling for you. You aren’t seeing any major breakthrough. No matter how much you try, how hard you pray, and the effort you put in, you don’t seem to be going anywhere. Yet, according to you, – THEY –

~those who are not as spiritual, not following God faithfully or at all~

-are prospering and going places. Why?

Why is it that I am following God and doing everything right but I am not prospering? Instead, it seems those who aren’t following God are prospering. How come these problems never end? I am tired man. Why do things just seem hard even after I have given God a hundred percent? How come it seems like things are working for other people and seems to come easy to others while for me its a fight…? Its not fair…! This faith thing must be a lie.

You want answers!

Welcome to the club. You are not alone. Continue reading “WHY DO “THEY” PROSPER & I DON’T, EVEN THOUGH I SAID YES TO GOD? – PART 1″

UPGRADED CONFESSIONS!

I confess! I am a deep thinker. Mine comes with a side effect. It’s the tendency to brutally criticize and judge myself for the minutest thing. It has been a major problem for the longest. After all, what is self reflection if the end result is a wounded hope, fear, and thoughts of shame? Continue reading “UPGRADED CONFESSIONS!”