Tag: Depression

The Best Compliment EVER!

Let me keep it real with you all.

Following Jesus is hard. Saying yes to an adventure he calls you to: saying yes to leadership can be painful. Leadership is hard! It involves a commitment of your emotions, feelings, as well as your mental prowess..

On Monday, I wrote about a crisis I am going through, titled – God is good, my confessions. It was nerve raking. Matter of fact, I am still trembling. I think it is the after effect of being so vulnerable with strangers. After I shared the post, I removed it. Then, I posted it again and then hours later, I removed it. I did this about 5 times.

I was conflicted. Below was and perhaps still is the battle in my soul –

I kept asking myself – Have I shared too much? This is too personal to be sharing with people I don’t know. What the “hell” am I doing?

But then I thought – Ish, you need to preserve yourself and the dignities of those included or connected to these struggles. But, is this a cop out? But it will help someone. But who reads this anyway…? Does it matter…?

Too many thoughts.

I am still shaken because I know its too late. It is said that, “What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.” It is true for the internet. What happens on the internet stays on the internet. Difference is not everyone goes to Vegas but everyone is on the internet. And since what I shared stays on the internet stays, even if I delete it., people will find it anyway.

Saying yes to a call from heaven is hard. Leadership is hard.

When you lead or are called to lead, you deal with so many secret pressures and pains. Your hands and body often tremble under stress, fear, and anxiety, while you struggle to keep your composure and think clearly. You don’t have answers or know which way to go. You hold onto faith, but wonder just how much you can take and how much more you can give. There is lonely decision making.

Even though people are all round you, you could be suffering, dying, sweating and silently as well as secretly crying for help and those around you wouldn’t even hear it. Sometimes, you wander what to say. What do you tell people, your people? How do you say it? How do you even explain it when it is so spiritual? Where do you begin? Will “they” understand it?

It is hard to be a leader. Harder still, is fighting the good fight of faith on this ultimate adventure with the Almighty. You’ll do things for its own sake and people will never know. You pray and hope for others even when you yourself are barely holding on and people will never know. You’ll fully engage in celebrating the victories of others and wander – but, what about me? Did I do something wrong? Or is it something right? You pay such a hefty price and then wonder, is this all that I get or is this just life?

While driving this morning, my body was vibrating under all the trials. I was struggling to focus on the words of his promise. But, it was hard. I wondered if I could keep going. I thought to myself – this is hard and when I finish this part of my adventure with the Almighty, I am tempted to say to him – I don’t know if going on with this is still worth the price…! (Its – the pain speaking).

The problem with life is not that it is rationale or irrational. It is that it is almost rationale – J.K Chesterton

Meaning, just when everything seems to fall into place and you seem to be getting a hang of things, and moving along in life, suddenly something happens that throws everything off balance, setting you like a chess piece in a box called – paradox and contradiction.

Suffering brings courage ~ President SirLeaf of Liberia

That said –

It is during our lives lowest and most challenging periods that a patient and listening ear as well as mere words spoken out of love and understanding echo divine messages and become our greatest gifts. Such a message came from my mother.

She is a true African Queen. She is wild at heart and her passion keeps her youthful. She is my biggest supporter, sides with God on everything concerning Ish even when she knows it will be long and painful, and never allows me to say the word depressed. She can feel it when I am losing strength and courage. She just knows. She knows things man.

Anyone have a mom, friend, or a person in their life like that?

Recently, Ms. Mom was talking with a friend. Knowing my trials, her friend expressed concern because she was worried about her own children and couldn’t imagine her children standing under a similar cross if they carried it. Without skipping a beat, Ms. Mom said of me,

I know my boy. I am not worried about him. If any of my other children were in his shoes, I would be worried, crying, and shrieking. But, its him – I’m not worried about him.”

Then, she added this gem –

If you take him and throw him into a sea, he will come out dry. He will come out with a smile. No matter how long it takes. He’ll be fine.”

This gave me much courage. The fact that she believed in me gave me courage. Not many people may understand your life and your life’s call from heaven. You may be lonely on your journey to meet God on page 898 in your book of destiny from page 123. But, the words of that one person – family, friend or stranger – may be all you need to keep going.

Ms. Mom’s words empowered me to keep looking at the Master amidst these divinely engineered storms. Thanks Mom! This is by far the best compliment I have ever received.

Enough with my musing.

What about you? How are you doing and how are you holding up, friends?

What is the best compliment you have ever received in your life?

Why did it matter to you so much?

 

I would love to read your thoughts too. Don’t be shy. I don’t bite.

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One love, One Spirit.


 

 

Butterfly v. Creative Negativity

~ Iron sharpens iron  ~

This has been on my mind for a while. I have been working with someone whose pessimism about life is breath-taking. My goodness! For instance, he says things like –

You can’t get a good job because you are black.

This is what is wrong with this country…

This generation is lazy, good for nothings…

Robots are going to take all the jobs and make people unemployed…

Basically, everything is going down…

Its like he always finds a reason to make depression a reality. Yep. He’s from “that” generation alright. Or maybe its just the age. And though I love and appreciate him, his thoughts might be rubbing off on me. And when he told me he watches the news all the time, I was like –

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…makes sense…

Recently, after sharing his heart about how hopeless the future would be, I challenged his views. I told him –

There are people out there who will transform this world. Young people who will inspire hope, engage in societal reformation, embody transformation…and more. Don’t be surprised to see a sudden breakthrough of young folks inspired by the Divine doing great things next year. I am confident of it.

Though he insisted that this was not possible, I added,

I disagree sir, but there is. You don’t see them because there are not where you’ll typically look. And there a lot of young adults who are already making that change. I am fortunate to know and be connected with some of them. You might not see them because they are a remnant…waiting for the appointed time. A tree is first a seed and when it is a seed, you can’t see it.

That’s why God hides this type of people until it is time for them to emerge. You will see them in 2018. You will have reason to hope. You can either retire to some remote place as you plan and watch the change happen or you can keep at your craft while watching and participating in the change. I guess its up to you.

Personally, I was thinking I wouldn’t want “you” around me with this barrage of creative negativity.

Though I may have been affected by this barrage of hopelessness recently, I am constantly encouraged by the work of friends and family who are breaking ground. Folks like this proof that there is hope and a remnant in our generation bringing the transforming power of His presence into the streets and marketplace.

So –

Meet Ria Githuku (link to instagram)

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Our meeting was a supernatural one. It was – destiny. I stepped out of a church service to get something and saw two people loving, comforting, and praying for someone. One of them was wearing a prayer shawl. I ignored it. A few secs later, I discerned that sweet still small voice say – “Go over there and pray with them.” And – go – I did.

Turns out, the guy was Eli – remember him? And the classy lady with the prayer shawl was Ria Githuku, one of the most talented female singers I have ever met. She’s an actor too. Pure artistic genuis. We have become friends.

Listen to her new single below.

Like many of you, this beautiful mademoiselle has gone through rock and hard places. She has been tested by fire, her faith tested like gold…you know, and every other unforeseen circumstance that is attracted to people of faith. You know, the usual.

But, she remains faithful and her song is her testimony.

If iron sharpens iron, then I am glad she and the Shabbat family sharpens me. Ria together with many of you are part of the change heaven is releasing on the earth. You are God’s gifts, God’s surprise, for this age of hopelessness and depression. Keep on keeping on.

I asked Ria to share some wisdom and encouragement. With love, she sends her thoughts and regards to you and your family. In her own words –

When my dream became being in the center of God’s will, following my dreams always led me into the center of His heart, where there is no rejection, no disappointment, no striving, no inadequacy – just Love and trust in the fact that I will be led into the absolute best destiny for my life! There is complete freedom in following Jesus because He has bigger dreams and higher hopes for us than we could ever have for ourselves!!

I have found who I really am in Him, my purpose, what I was born for, or at least I have started to unearth it. I am a worshiper of the living God and a deep lover of His people. With my song, my words, my communion with Him, and my heart of compassion for people, worship flows from me like living water. This is what we are all called to although it will look different for each of us.

FALL IN LOVE WITH JESUS – SEEK HIS FACE, AND YOU WILL LITERALLY HAVE EVERYTHING YOU WILL EVER NEED, AND MORE!!! ❤❤❤

 

Well –

There you have it. Seek his face. In short – Seek first the Lord and his kingdom and all other things will be added unto you. Don’t give up guys. Press in.

Life is hard. Holding onto the promises of God and doing life is harder still.

That’s because every “promise” of God to you must be tested. Every single one! But run the race. Keep the faith. And ask God for folks like Ria who like iron will sharpen you with hope. You are blessed and highly favored.

Thank you Ria for your wisdom and for the gift of friendship and divinely inspired music that drives away hopeless thoughts with love. And now, I raise my glass to you Ria; to friends and family everywhere who are boldly traversing the valley of the shadow of death in pain and in peace –

 

Cheers!

One Love, One Spirit


PS: Butterfly represents being transformed by the renewing of their minds to do what HE calls them to do. Creative Negativity is the metamorphosis of the negativity (doubt, pain, persecution etc) we have to overcome to become who we really are and do what we are born to do.

And HE Said To Me…

Hello fam –

Have you ever done something so stupid you tried to change your name, identity, and your existence after? Something so stupid you can’t believe you did it? Something so uncool that even though you are redeemed, the memories can’t seem to fade and shame is a constant stain?

Well, I’ve been there.

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About two years ago, I made a mistake so terrible that left me feeling regret and remorse.  Its too embarrassing for me to share with you just yet. But, I was ashamed for the longest. Afraid to even show my face in public. The voice of the accuser finally had evidence against me. I couldn’t stop thinking –

How could I have let my fears get the better of me? How could I have been so dumb as to use fear, instead of faith, as an anchor? What type of person would others see me as? How could I even think myself a decent child of God now?

As I wallowed in shame and despair about my blunder and my identity, another voice joined the conversation. This voice interjected my thoughts and decided to tell me a story. Guess who the other voice was?

That’s right…it was our friend, our helper, our counselor, our teacher, the comforter –

The Holy Spirit

It was the most shocking thing. His voice wasn’t audible, but it was clear enough for me to count it as a supernatural experience. Clear enough for me to still remember it and share it with you now.

And so HE said –

Continue reading “And HE Said To Me…”

Gifts that Keep On Giving

Phew…what a crazy week!

I just got back home from Christmas shopping and….boy…let…me…tell you! It was cray-cray at the mall, y’all. The mall was packed and the lines were just unbelievable. I am thankful I got a few things though.

(Between…I will make it rain socks on christmas day lol. But…)

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For me, its not about the gifts. The best gift is the experience that created around the gift and the funkiness that stains the recipient of set gift. For our loved ones, our helpers, our encouragers, friends…taking time to craft a a whole scene around a simple gift is worth it.

So, I wish to share some of the gifts I received this year and then share some thoughts that these gifts remind me of. So, here we go.

Meet Louis

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Louis and I grew up and went to school in Africa where we became classmates. Then in high school, we were bench mates, but we were never close. Fast forward 8 years later when we reconnected in Minnesota.

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Over time, we have become close friends. Turns out we share similar values, passions, thoughts. And not long after our Minnesota meeting, Louis created a groundbreaking program –  Threelly – that has the potential to literally transform how we watch videos and interact with ideas. I have had the opportunity to partner and work with him on this. Needless to say we have seen God open up doors we could not have dreamed of.

The opportunity is all good. The adventures and miracles have been wonderful. But, I think I figured it out. It was Louis! Louis was the gift – God’s gift to me. A friend who empowers, encourages, cherishes, celebrates, and challenges me. And this gift keeps on giving. I see it now.

My grandma is over a century old now. She sent me off to the West with this blessing –

Love all people. Respect all people. And be each other’s keeper…

See folks!

When you pray for help, miracles, etc…, God will send people. People are the best miracles. But, if you don’t love them, they will leave you without releasing or before realizing they were to supposed to release what you prayed for.

That’s why grandma in hindsight emphasized  – Love all people my son. Respect all people. And I see Louis and so many others as a gift that results from me walking in granny’s counsel. Thank you Louis – for everything!

Now! Meet mi familia.

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These are my people, my tribe, my friends, my pride, my joy….my jewel. You know you are moving to the next level of your destiny when God brings folks like these into your life (See the post – A New Measure).

Gauge every new level of success by the quality and quantity of your relationships each time you graduate a one destiny class and move on to the next.

Time would fail me to tell you how we met (just over 3 months ago) and the miracles that have happened since. We have traversed California, hiking, praying, dancing to salsa, eating, innovating, working, planning…and doing great things. We have shared stories, struggles, concerns…and become very close. They are a huge blessing to me. I hope I am to them.

See folks! I believe in miracles. Miracles happen. Ask Miracle Yello – BBB. But, what I have discovered is this –

Yes, Miracles happen. However, a lot more miracles tend to happen when you are in community.

Thank you God for these gifts that just cannot stop giving. Baruch Hashem!

Then –

There is YOU!

Yes – YOU – reading this post right now. You are THE MAIN ATTRACTION.

Its not by chance. Its not a coincidence that you either followed, read, or liked something I wrote. And its not a coincidence that it led me to you and what you wrote. You too have blessed and inspired me.

Thank you for reading, liking, and even commenting on my blog. Its a big deal to me. I am not sure if what I share with you is helpful. I am just glad to be able to do it and have the opportunity to connect with you creative geniuses who have been touched and inspired by the the Spirit of the Almighty.

I would like to have tea/coffee with you all whenever if that’s possible. Meeting and connecting with folks like you is my passion. I hope you would indulge me.

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So –

Thank you BBB for your blog – beautybeyondbones. You truly are a Miracle Yello. You empower many of us to be real. And I find so much joy in reading your blog. Thank you my friend.

Also, thanks to –

Transit Address, Lovemessage27, Complianc4All, Simply Ula, Amphibioussoul, Inked Shrink, Maurice, Red Letters, The Godly Chic Dairies, Wildsound Review, Healthy Lifestyle, Empowered Everyday blog, K.C., Zachary, Good Vibes Nation, Crazy Aunty Cyn, Tatiana Ketchum, James Edgar Skye, Leo, Your Notebook Driver, Laurabon, Ccaliz, Extracting Value, Belike Water Production, Revinfotech, Selvia Fei, Philip Ruskins, Yuri, Damon Ashworth, and my lil bro – Alain. Thanks for following and reading.

Et a vous – La Paradie de Noemie! Merci pour suivre et lire mon blog.

You all encourage me to keep on going.

In this Cyber-verse, I find that the following counsel still translates to the WordPress Universe –

The adventure and experience of any place or thing is IN THE PEOPLE in any place you want to visit. They are the MAIN attraction. Visit other attractions – Yes! But make sure to spend some good time with the main attractions – the people.

That’s all I have to share with you today. Thanks again for reading. If what I write blesses you in anyway, let me know. Don’t be shy (lol). Also –

WATCH OUT!!! for one more post – A Christmas Special – coming this weekend

That said –

I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year in Advance as we celebrate THE FIRST GIFT that keeps on giving – JESUS!

 

One Love, One Spirit