When I had the vision and started building #Threelly (www.threelly.com), I had no idea what I was doing or if it will even succeed.
But I STARTED nonetheless
Fast forward a few moons ahead, the site is up running, a vibrant community has been built curating and slicing some of the best videos on the web to expose hidden ideas. Had I waited to be ready, this will never have happened.
1.) Most people wait for the perfect timing before they do anything. Perfect timing to start a business, finish school, get married, be happy, e.t.c. Perfect timing doesn’t exist and any person looking for one is simply just making excuses to avoid taking action.
2.) A Chinese proverb reminds us
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” .
3.) So, stop making excuses! Stop waiting for the PERFECT time! Stop waiting to be ready! Start taking action! Start now! Start small and grow!
Well, I don’t know. I have no idea. I confess, I’m a romantic. But, somewhere between life and a hard place, I lost my mojo. I lost my M.O
I’m no Moto-Moto
I’m guessing you “love birds” are making last minute arrangements and wrapping up on your romance strategies with bags of roses, rings, necklaces, planned lush dinners, proposals…!
And then on Valentine’s day its…
Girls and free drinks, Singles and a few drinks, Guys and two things, Cuddles and Chick Flicks, Breakups and Karaokes, “will you marry me” and diamond rings, dates talking pet peeves…you know, the usual.
And then, there is “US.” Singles with little or no prospects who can’t stand the commercialization of love and loneliness.
I have been wondering why some of “us” who have “the goods” are single and boy do I have some musings to share with you.
This week I have been all about the intricacies of interactions and connections.
I wrote an article called Answer people not their Questions where I suggested that instead of just answering the questions people in our sphere of influence come to us with, we should see beyond that.
We should answer them in such a way that they feel deeply touched and become conduits for a nuclear explosion of positive influence.
This is important because people seldom fluently describe what they want to say. In fact, being able to say exactly what you want to say, feel, or want is a gift. Being able to clearly articulate an idea is considered gold according to the Book of Proverbs.
So, its no surprise that people ind it hard to say exactly what they want to say or describe exactly how they feel. What’s more, without sufficient information of what people who speak with us are going through, we will experience difficulty in discerning what is NOT being said by folks. And it may be difficult for us to touch them deeply.
And I mean s…o…u…l deep!
In fact, we may end up thinking of a way to answer people while they are still speaking. So, this has been on my mind.
Yes, as I wrote in Make the Most of Your Nuclear Reactions –
~ When people interact its like A NUCLEAR REACTION ~ The Rebbe
Its not how many people you touch, but how deeply you touch them that determines your sphere of influence ~ Mendel Kalmenson
I have often said, success is not about the destination, and its not about the journey either. Its about THE PEOPLE on the way to your destination. Our dreams and visions are for the people. Through our interactions with them we get inspired to think, dream, and imagine.
To succeed, we find out what they want and serve them. Regardless of how talented and gifted we are, we still need to deal with people. And even after all the adventure is done, we are left with – people – the good, the bad, and the ugly. And we still need to deal with them.
But, I often think we forget just how powerful our interaction with people are.
So, here’s a perspective* from The Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson of righteous memory –
“You think that human interactions are like chemical reactions. When two elements interact, they result in the creation of a third compound. But people aren’t chemicals.
~ When people interact its like A NUCLEAR REACTION ~
A nuclear reaction has a center, from which further reactions spread in all directions. As the outer rings of that sphere gets larger, the number of reactions grow exponentially.
Likewise, when you touch the heart of one person very deeply – even just for a moment – he in turn will touch many other people, triggering a nuclear explosion of positive influence.”
When I was studying Torah (bible) with a Rabbi and while I was learning from Chabad in the Midwest, I came across a saying. And this quote has become one of my favorite and has been shaping my approach to communication since. It is –
A Rabbi answers questions but a Rebbe answers people.
A Rebbe is a Rabbi, but one who has an intimate connection to his God, his people, his people’s experiences, his community, his own experience, and a wealth of wisdom and insight from the God who made and knows the people.
For instance this is my version of a story of my favorite Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson, taken from the book Seeds of Wisdom – 2, written by Mendel Kalmenson:
A young Rabbi who had a fledgling business came to see the Rebbe because he was feeling overwhelmed. He was hoping to find out where to cut back and where to focus. Instead, the Rebbe said to him,
“Not only should you NOT cut back your activities, but you should increase your outreach efforts, your rabbinic work, and also your business.”
So, I just got back from a trip to San Jose and Redding where I reconnected with some friends, met people from several countries, and Cooked up a Storm Saturday night.
~ it was something.
I kept meeting and connecting with folks from Switzerland who kept inviting me to Switzerland. It was like God was saying – hey, I got a bag packing adventure for you in the Swiss Alps if you are interested.
In due time Jesus…in…due…time!
But most of all….I MISSED YOU GUYS….! It was just for a week, but it felt like a thousand…years…
I just got back. I drove for 10 hours with some two cool and weird ladies who jammed to my Old Skool collection, yo. Wooo…freaked me out.
I’m okay…don’t panic.
On the trip last week with friends, one of my friends, Maria, took a risk. A BIG ONE. She shared the pains, difficulties, struggles, and hardships she was facing in trying to navigate her late twenties without close friends and an understanding community.
I could understand that. Its not easy finding friends in your late 20’s. Its difficult to date if you have standards. Its even more difficult when most of your friends are in different states. And painful when you are in a community but find it hard to become a part of that community.
You know, things some of you can relate to.
Well, Maria’s story was met with a current of brutal honesty, facts, and counsel which were ALL lacking in one thing – EMPATHY (Love and Understanding). And boy did it erupt into a minor argument of – spirituality.
Part of fulfilling your destiny is finding someone amazing to spend the rest of your life with and build the vision the Good Lord ignites in you.
If you are a guy and looking, here are some pointers from one of my favorite bloggers.
I promise, you’ll love it.
Caralyn, writer behind Beauty Beyond Bones has this to say
Romance is a dying art. Truly. In the age of smart phones, Snapchat and communicating through emojis, dating is, frankly, limping along like a squirrel run over by a semi. Too much? Perhaps. But in this era of 140 character expression, chivalry has taken a hit. Which poses the question, what are we to expect…
This is going to be an excellent year folks. Better believe it.
I want to tell you an interesting story. A short one.
Recently, I was introduced to a new customer. We became friends and on one of my visits, we shared stories. Turns out my new friend had been a missionary and returned from the field to do enter the market.
First, she engaged in civil service. She was a Data Entry personnel. She also formatted software codes. While at it, she realized she loved the idea of coding. She had a 6th sense for it. She became a software technician after obtaining college education. She then started her own business.
All this followed a discussion about – The Need to Bring Your Dreams to Life – for which I was looking for feedback. While she listened to a recording of it, she stopped. And with a heavy heart, she told me of an idea she once had to start and run a business project abroad which involved training young girls.
She knew it was inspiration from heaven. However, she did nothing and she was basically expressing regret. Here’ what happened. Continue reading “DON’T SAY IT!”
Okay! Hands up if you have been worrying about…well…everything?
Well! STOP IT! (lol)
Seriously though, have your peace. I pray blessings over you. I pray for peace to flood your soul, for grace to be your own, and for a renewed strength to go your way in Jesus name.
THIS IS GOING TO BE AN EXCELLENT YEAR
For the past week, I have been reflecting about what would be one of the most important things to consider moving forward this new year. Though this is going to be an excellent year, I sense that the troubles and challenges we will be facing will be on a level that will require us to be grounded in this – one thing – I am about to share.
Let me do just that using a true story I came across in a book called – Translating God – by Shawn Bolz.
1 + 1 may reach the mind, but once upon a time reaches the heart – Lou E.
So here it goes…
An enthusiastic young man, Dan, came to a conference of leaders where they were some leaders. He was excited about the opportunity to possibly be called up to speak even though he was not on the list. A discussion panel was being organized and Dan was hoping to fill in one more spot.
Dan went to see the head organizer, telling him of the numerous things he could do for everyone there, especially the head organizer himself. The head organizer had never met or heard of Dan. Certainly, he had talent. There was just one lingering possibility though.
And so, the organizer said to Dan, “Can I ask you some questions?”
“Of course!” Dan replied.
“Where did you go to celebrate Christmas last year?” the organizer asked.
Dan was confused since he had been expecting questions about what he could bring do or bring to the table.
“Um, I don’t remember. I was invited over to a co-worker’s house.” Dan said.
I ate, drank good stuff, and pretty much binged watch Netflix all the way into the New Year. Sauf for the part where I attended church, played games and won a gift card and a a box of cookies which according to my trainer is not healthy.
Unfortunately….for the cookies…I can’t find them (hmm…hmm)
I guess I won’t be adding “cookies” on Myfitnesspal app log…(this once).
I figured I’d begin with resolutions this year since its what we all tend to do this time of the year. Yesterday, something changed inside of me. My resolutions didn’t seem to just be resolutions. They felt more like declarations. And as I share them with you, I hope you can hold me to it and also share yours with me. It may sound like journal ramblings.
That said –
2018 is going to be an excellent year.
I feel the excitement in my bones. Excitement for the adventures and grace to overcome in difficult times. Like most of you, I have great promises from God. But the one thing that has always stood in my way is – me.