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Discovering the Vehicle for your Calling

Let’s go back to – Catalina Islands…for a sec

One of the most fascinating creatures on God’s green earth that I met was Jesse.

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Meet Jesse – (So cool)

 

Jesse is an epiphany. She redefines coolness. She had that cool, colorful, Malibu groove going on. She is graceful, calm, charming, lovely, wise, intuitive, respectful and one fine sister who really loves Jesus. Don’t judge. Just bragging about Jesse is all.

While facing the beach we engaged in a conversation to inquire why we were each glowing. And no…it wasn’t love at first sight or last sight (though if Jesus made it possible…okay…I should stop now). Just kidding.

We swapped stories and compliments. Then, Jesse shared her dilemma. She didn’t know what her calling was. She wanted to know what it is God was inspiring her to do and how to do it. She was a sophomore in college but wasn’t sure what to chose for a major. I listened and we just talked and swapped experiences. Then, our talk went something like this  –

Ish: What do you hope to achieve in life?

Jesse: I want to help people.

Ish: Okay. Let’s go deeper. What does that look like? What does helping people look like to you? What is supposed to be the outcome in people’s lives that you helped them? What impact do you want to see in their lives 10 years down the line because you helped them today?

Jesse: I want to make them feel better in…

Ish: Cool. In what area of their life do you want to help people? You can make people feel better in different ways. You can help them feel better in a financial sense, inspirational sense, family sense, medical sense, business sense, entertaining sense….what is your preference? In what way do you want to give your help?

(Jesse told me what she wanted but was worried about choosing a major. When she did, this followed -)

Ish: Jesse? The beautiful thing about Catholic tradition is that you are taught servant leadership. You are taught to bring heaven to earth. You are thought to instinctively turn a vision to a mission. Without being aware, you have successfully turned the vision of wanting to help people in this specific area into a mission. You are literally doing it. Can you see that?

Jesse: Oh…

Ish: And that’s all it is. Your calling to your mission. You can fulfill that mission now and at any other time as long as you meet and connect with people. You can apply that mission to your family, community, friends, and so on.  But as you grow, you will need money, a job etc. Yes?

So, this is the big question.

What vehicle would you like to chose to transport that vision turned into a mission? 

Jesse: I guess, I haven’t taught of it that way. A vehicle…

(I didn’t either, but it felt smart when it came out of my mouth and I didn’t mention it)

Ish: Yeah. For example –

McDonald’s vision may be to feed people. Its mission is to do so with tools such as burgers and shakes. But, it needs a vehicle to transport that vision, yes? It uses buildings and sytems to deliver that burger to you. 

Nike is a perfect example. Its visions/mission may be to say help folks develop their inner athlete. Its vehicle is to craft and sell shoes and apparel that transmit the message and make that reality true.

So, what vehicle would you like to use to transport your vision/calling?

Don’t worry about a major. It is just the vehicle. Simply chose which vehicle you would like to transport you and your vision/mission. You can drive downtown in a car, a bus, or take the metro. Same thing with your vision. Your major is just one vehicle.

If you are a student, your mission can help you come to a better vehicle by design. For a working class adult, their mission can help them chose what extra courses to help them keep living a specific mission while making money. If you have an entrepreneurial spirit, you can begin to imagine what to build or write in order to transport that vision/mission.

Does this help? That may be a good start.

But, here’s the cool part.

To be continued…


 

 

 

 

You Don’t Have to Be on the Same Page

Often, we think that to get along, especially in relationships, we have to be on the same page. Well, I disagree.

We are all different. We are each unique expressions of the image of God with different hopes, dreams, and ideas. We each have our own experiences and differentiating nuances in world views. Yes, even when we believe the same thing.

Imagining romantic relationships here – what if her level of spirituality is different from yours? What do you do then? Is it a good match or not? Obviously, one of you has much to learn, yes?

So, being on the same page is not really plausible. What do you do then?

When you are in a relationship or intend to begin a deep one –

You don’t have to be on the same page.

You just have to be reading from the same book.

Here’s why – Continue reading “You Don’t Have to Be on the Same Page”

Power Introductions

God’s greatest gifts are people and He sends his gifts to you when you are about to enter a new level of your mission here on earth. People connect and complete the circle of your destiny.

Whatever it is you are asking God for, it is in other people, in the hands of other people, in the hearts and minds of other people who may very well be right next to you.

But here’s the thing.

God can touch hearts, inspire people to think and favor you. What He won’t do is do the loving and talking for you. God will send you his gifts, his people, his friends. But –

If you don’t pick up the scent of God’s favor through the people he sends who may very well be unconventional; if you don’t love and respect them, they will leave you: they will walk away. And yes, your blessings will too

God said he’d help you. But don’t get it twisted.

If you act like a jerk…you’ll lose them.

Power introductions have an influence on your destiny and here’s why and some examples you can use and build on – Continue reading “Power Introductions”

The Four Way Test

Listen! You are light and you are life. You cannot be hidden. Bloom! Shine!

Jesus said that “You are the light of the world” and “A city built on a hill cannot be hidden.”

If the light of the world lives in you, that makes you light too. If the one called wonderful dwells in you, that makes you wonderful too. But –

So what? How does it help your people and the community that you are life, light, and wonderful?

Continue reading “The Four Way Test”

Done is Better

Done is better than perfect – Greg McKeown

Don’t let your desire to be perfect in execution make you forget what’s most important – your voice being heard – even if you don’t have all the ideas to share yet

It is your voice. Your destiny is in your voice. All you can do is use it to begin touching lives so those lives can touch cities.

You would be right – in an ideal situation, getting everything together, all the ideas, the learning before sharing is better. But when there is a fire 🔥 raging, everyone who can lift a bucket must help put it out. Continue reading “Done is Better”

BIG DECISIONS

Making decisions is a humbling process, especially if they’re are BIG. Great leaders (Churchill, MLK, Gandhi, Mandela) all had to do it. For it’s in the moment of decision that our destiny is shaped!

You are a great leader. But you have to make big decisions to become great ~ Ish’mael (Destiny Class)

1.) Interestingly, BIG decisions come with equal part sense of EXCITEMENT and TERROR. Like making a big investment, proposing to a loved one, moving to a new city or starting a new venture.

It’s hard to be INDIFFERENT when making these big decisions. If you are truly indifferent, then the decision is probably not big enough. Continue reading “BIG DECISIONS”

Start Before You Are Ready

When I had the vision and started building #Threelly (www.threelly.com), I had no idea what I was doing or if it will even succeed.

But I STARTED nonetheless

Fast forward a few moons ahead, the site is up running, a vibrant community has been built curating and slicing some of the best videos on the web to expose hidden ideas. Had I waited to be ready, this will never have happened.

1.) Most people wait for the perfect timing before they do anything. Perfect timing to start a business, finish school, get married, be happy, e.t.c. Perfect timing doesn’t exist and any person looking for one is simply just making excuses to avoid taking action.

2.) A Chinese proverb reminds us

“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” .

3.) So, stop making excuses! Stop waiting for the PERFECT time! Stop waiting to be ready! Start taking action! Start now! Start small and grow!

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Stay Humble! Stay Strong!

By Fru Louis

#frulouis (instagram)

 

Man of Your Dreams

This is going to be an excellent year

What are you guys doing for Valentines day?

Well, I don’t know. I have no idea. I confess, I’m a romantic. But, somewhere between life and a hard place, I lost my mojo. I lost my M.O

I’m no Moto-Moto

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I’m guessing you “love birds” are making last minute arrangements and wrapping up on your romance strategies with bags of roses, rings, necklaces, planned lush dinners, proposals…!

And then on Valentine’s day its…

Girls and free drinks, Singles and a few drinks, Guys and two things, Cuddles and Chick Flicks, Breakups and Karaokes, “will you marry me” and diamond rings, dates talking pet peeves…you know, the usual.

And then, there is “US.” Singles with little or no prospects who can’t stand the commercialization of love and loneliness.

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Can I get a witness?

A…n…y…w…a…y.

I have been wondering why some of “us” who have “the goods” are single and boy do I have some musings to share with you.

Because – LOVE. Continue reading “Man of Your Dreams”

How to Touch People Deeply

This is going to be an excellent year.

This week I have been all about the intricacies of interactions and connections.

I wrote an article called Answer people not their Questions where I suggested that instead of just answering the questions people in our sphere of influence come to us with, we should see beyond that.

We should answer them in such a way that they feel deeply touched and become conduits for a nuclear explosion of positive influence.

This is important because people seldom fluently describe what they want to say. In fact, being able to say exactly what you want to say, feel, or want is a gift. Being able to clearly articulate an idea is considered gold according to the Book of Proverbs.

So, its no surprise that people ind it hard to say exactly what they want to say or describe exactly how they feel. What’s more, without sufficient information of what people who speak with us are going through, we will experience difficulty in discerning what is NOT being said by folks. And it may be difficult for us to touch them deeply.

And I mean s…o…u…l deep!

In fact, we may end up thinking of a way to answer people while they are still speaking. So, this has been on my mind.

Yes, as I wrote in Make the Most of Your Nuclear Reactions –

~ When people interact its like  A NUCLEAR REACTION ~ The Rebbe

and

Its not how many people you touch, but how deeply you touch them that determines your sphere of influence ~ Mendel Kalmenson

We can use open-ended questions to listen well and help folks open up (See – Make the Most of Your Nuclear Reactions).

But what exactly can we do to not only gather intel through open-ended questions, feel the story through listening, but also answer in a way that helps people to feel deeply touched?

Here is a thought I have been pondering. Continue reading “How to Touch People Deeply”

Make the Most of Your “Nuclear Reactions”

Hello folks,

This is going to be an excellent year

I have often said, success is not about the destination, and its not about the journey either. Its about THE PEOPLE on the way to your destination. Our dreams and visions are for the people. Through our interactions with them we get inspired to think, dream, and imagine.

To succeed, we find out what they want and serve them. Regardless of how talented and gifted we are, we still need to deal with people. And even after all the adventure is done, we are left with – people – the good, the bad, and the ugly. And we still need to deal with them.

But, I often think we forget just how powerful our interaction with people are.

So, here’s a perspective* from The Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson of righteous memory –

You think that human interactions are like chemical reactions. When two elements interact, they result in the creation of a third compound. But people aren’t chemicals.

~ When people interact its like  A NUCLEAR REACTION ~

A nuclear reaction has a center, from which further reactions spread in all directions. As the outer rings of that sphere gets larger, the number of reactions grow exponentially.

Likewise, when you touch the heart of one person very deeply – even just for a moment – he in turn will touch many other people, triggering a nuclear explosion of positive influence.”

In short, Continue reading “Make the Most of Your “Nuclear Reactions””