Category: Family

Thank You Mrs. Mom

I am currently working on my Master’s defense. But, I just had to squeeze out time to brag about the person who has made it physically, financially, mentally, and emotionally possible for me to be able to do it.

I’m talking about an African Queen, Mrs. Mom.

She is one tough cookie. She is sharp too! In fact, she is so sharp you could get cut standing right next to her.

If I told you about her, you’d feel like you just got served a slice of heaven. She is dubbed the Iron Lady, has one “hell” of a right jab, and knows how to groove to the beat people. If Michael Jackson was alive, she’d beat him hands down on his moonwalk.

Her presence is a triple threat. Continue reading “Thank You Mrs. Mom”

Daily Do-er

Anything that needs to be done, should be done right away. 

If you have been reading my blog, you’ll know who said that. But, that’s besides the point. A few days ago, a close, vibrant, healthy, and full of life relative had a seizure in the middle of a conversation with a fellow nurse.

All she remembered was drawing a blank and then falling, unable to do anything.

“Man is like a breath: his days are like passing shadows” – Psalms 144:4

She had several seizures. I think I was naive when I called to find out how she was doing. Since I didn’t know how bad seizures are, I began our phone conversation with high spirits. But, when I heard my cousin’s voice and found out she could barely open her mouth to eat, could barely move, could barely stand, was terribly shaken….I froze.

And then all she could mutter was death. She said in pidgin-English –

Death is easy. Death is easy. I saw it…I saw it…

That’s when I knew it was bad. She kept talking about it and I just froze. All she wanted to do was tell me to live. She wanted me to know –

Anything that needs to be done should be done right away.

If you have a vision, do it right away. No matter how much you learn about sugar, it makes no difference until you taste it, at which point you get it.

Be your best and empower people. That’s the best you can do in the here and now.

We thank God she is alive. In the words of Louis, “Life is too short to be boring.”

H. Jackson elaborates on “Life is too short to be boring” when he says,

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover ― H. Jackson Brown Jr.

So do what needs to be done.

Start with family (Family is gold)

Do it right away!!!

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One Love, One Spirit,

Stay Humble! Stay Strong!

Life is not full of surprises: YOU ARE!

 

[PS: Please, put her in your prayers. Name is Saaghe]


Photo courtesy of @frulouis (instagram).

Fill the Void with Life

Today is my twin brother’s birthday.

Today is Halle Patrick’s birthday. And I am all giggles and stuff. I can’t stop smiling.

He wasn’t my conventional twin per say. Blood is thicker than water. But, our bond was beyond that. Its as if when God sent a soul to inhabit a body in a mother’s womb, before the soul reached the earth, God said –

“This is a beautiful and powerful soul. Let’s make a separate the essence and send the other half to another woman who is crying for a baby.”

And so, we went. Then, the Almighty thought again andtold the angel carrying us –

Make sure that they have everything they need. Orchestrate their paths to meet so that they can become twins again. Put in their infant hearts a covenant sign so that when they meet again, they will know they were long lost twins. And they will become one-alike and one-too-much.”

And so it was that we came to be. Continue reading “Fill the Void with Life”

Takes Two To Tango

Be the best you can be.

Engage in self-refinement. Learn. Grow. Take risks. Try new things. Become the best possible person someone else would want to spend time or spend their lives with.

Learn all you can about dating; about marriage, about being a good spouse, a good parent. It will certainly pay off.

But, if there is something more important to consider, it is this – Continue reading “Takes Two To Tango”

Standards OR Fantasy

Of course! Have standards.

Matter of fact,

Lowering your standards is a bad habit. Stop it!

Referring to my previous post, Man of Your Dreams, some folks took issue with my musing. In that post, I shared a prevalent observation which was that many in my generation are looking for the perfect, got it all together other, the “designer spouse,” – the one!

And yes, I agreed they could be found in one place – in our dreams and fantasies.

Maybe that was too much. Was it?

A…n…y…who.

In regards to that post, a close friend who was bothered by it asked a great question. In this post, I share some things we discussed.

Question:

My friend wanted to know –

Where do you draw the line between standards and accepting something less than what you hoped?

So, first, Continue reading “Standards OR Fantasy”

The Search for Love is REAL

Hello fam,

I’ve been up and running, from North to South in Califonia and just returned to the villa. Personally, I prefer to sit down, reflect, and write. So, its been particularly difficult to set the mood and press some fresh spiritual and inspiration juice for you.

Nevertheless…

What’s up people?

THIS IS GOING TO BE AN EXCELLENT YEAR

Last weekend, I was in Orange County attending a Singles Life Workshop. And people, let me tell you – AMAZING! I was thinking I would walk into this event and meet 20-somethings and maybe, 30-somethings and maybe find a “pretty mama” but noooo….

I saw a few 20-somethings and 30’s to 60-somethings all over the place. I was like – Lord, have mercy…

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Seriously! I was like…even the 40’s to 70’s are looking for love?

I thought folks in their 40’s, 50’s, 60’s…would have it down by now. I thought they would have it all together. But nooo…both the men and women came with their own issues.

And boy, some of those ladies had that perfect 8, size 10…body…, tights, boots, heels and that Beyonce Knowles walk. And…I mean… Continue reading “The Search for Love is REAL”

The Ultimate Test for 2018

HEY….THERE….AWESOME PEOPLE!

How are you guys doing? I hope well.

Okay! Hands up if you have been worrying about…well…everything?

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C’mon, don’t lie…

Well! STOP IT! (lol)

Seriously though, have your peace. I pray blessings over you. I pray for peace to flood your soul, for grace to be your own, and for a renewed strength to go your way in Jesus name.

THIS IS GOING TO BE AN EXCELLENT YEAR

For the past week, I have been reflecting about what would be one of the most important things to consider moving forward this new year. Though this is going to be an excellent year, I sense that the troubles and challenges we will be facing will be on a level that will require us to be grounded in this – one thing – I am about to share.

Let me do just that using a true story I came across in a book called – Translating God – by Shawn Bolz.

1 + 1 may reach the mind, but once upon a time reaches the heart  – Lou E.

So here it goes…

An enthusiastic young man, Dan, came to a conference of leaders where they were some leaders. He was excited about the opportunity to possibly be called up to speak even though he was not on the list. A discussion panel was being organized and Dan was hoping to fill in one more spot.

Dan went to see the head organizer, telling him of the numerous things he could do for everyone there, especially the head organizer himself. The head organizer had never met or heard of Dan. Certainly, he had talent. There was just one lingering possibility though.

And so, the organizer said to Dan, “Can I ask you some questions?”

Of course!” Dan replied.

Where did you go to celebrate Christmas last year?” the organizer asked.

Dan was confused since he had been expecting questions about what he could bring do or bring to the table.

Um, I don’t remember. I was invited over to a co-worker’s house.” Dan said.

Fantastic. Is this co-worker your closest friend?” asked the organizer. Continue reading “The Ultimate Test for 2018”

Butterfly v. Creative Negativity

~ Iron sharpens iron  ~

This has been on my mind for a while. I have been working with someone whose pessimism about life is breath-taking. My goodness! For instance, he says things like –

You can’t get a good job because you are black.

This is what is wrong with this country…

This generation is lazy, good for nothings…

Robots are going to take all the jobs and make people unemployed…

Basically, everything is going down…

Its like he always finds a reason to make depression a reality. Yep. He’s from “that” generation alright. Or maybe its just the age. And though I love and appreciate him, his thoughts might be rubbing off on me. And when he told me he watches the news all the time, I was like –

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…makes sense…

Recently, after sharing his heart about how hopeless the future would be, I challenged his views. I told him –

There are people out there who will transform this world. Young people who will inspire hope, engage in societal reformation, embody transformation…and more. Don’t be surprised to see a sudden breakthrough of young folks inspired by the Divine doing great things next year. I am confident of it.

Though he insisted that this was not possible, I added,

I disagree sir, but there is. You don’t see them because there are not where you’ll typically look. And there a lot of young adults who are already making that change. I am fortunate to know and be connected with some of them. You might not see them because they are a remnant…waiting for the appointed time. A tree is first a seed and when it is a seed, you can’t see it.

That’s why God hides this type of people until it is time for them to emerge. You will see them in 2018. You will have reason to hope. You can either retire to some remote place as you plan and watch the change happen or you can keep at your craft while watching and participating in the change. I guess its up to you.

Personally, I was thinking I wouldn’t want “you” around me with this barrage of creative negativity.

Though I may have been affected by this barrage of hopelessness recently, I am constantly encouraged by the work of friends and family who are breaking ground. Folks like this proof that there is hope and a remnant in our generation bringing the transforming power of His presence into the streets and marketplace.

So –

Meet Ria Githuku (link to instagram)

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Our meeting was a supernatural one. It was – destiny. I stepped out of a church service to get something and saw two people loving, comforting, and praying for someone. One of them was wearing a prayer shawl. I ignored it. A few secs later, I discerned that sweet still small voice say – “Go over there and pray with them.” And – go – I did.

Turns out, the guy was Eli – remember him? And the classy lady with the prayer shawl was Ria Githuku, one of the most talented female singers I have ever met. She’s an actor too. Pure artistic genuis. We have become friends.

Listen to her new single below.

Like many of you, this beautiful mademoiselle has gone through rock and hard places. She has been tested by fire, her faith tested like gold…you know, and every other unforeseen circumstance that is attracted to people of faith. You know, the usual.

But, she remains faithful and her song is her testimony.

If iron sharpens iron, then I am glad she and the Shabbat family sharpens me. Ria together with many of you are part of the change heaven is releasing on the earth. You are God’s gifts, God’s surprise, for this age of hopelessness and depression. Keep on keeping on.

I asked Ria to share some wisdom and encouragement. With love, she sends her thoughts and regards to you and your family. In her own words –

When my dream became being in the center of God’s will, following my dreams always led me into the center of His heart, where there is no rejection, no disappointment, no striving, no inadequacy – just Love and trust in the fact that I will be led into the absolute best destiny for my life! There is complete freedom in following Jesus because He has bigger dreams and higher hopes for us than we could ever have for ourselves!!

I have found who I really am in Him, my purpose, what I was born for, or at least I have started to unearth it. I am a worshiper of the living God and a deep lover of His people. With my song, my words, my communion with Him, and my heart of compassion for people, worship flows from me like living water. This is what we are all called to although it will look different for each of us.

FALL IN LOVE WITH JESUS – SEEK HIS FACE, AND YOU WILL LITERALLY HAVE EVERYTHING YOU WILL EVER NEED, AND MORE!!! ❤❤❤

 

Well –

There you have it. Seek his face. In short – Seek first the Lord and his kingdom and all other things will be added unto you. Don’t give up guys. Press in.

Life is hard. Holding onto the promises of God and doing life is harder still.

That’s because every “promise” of God to you must be tested. Every single one! But run the race. Keep the faith. And ask God for folks like Ria who like iron will sharpen you with hope. You are blessed and highly favored.

Thank you Ria for your wisdom and for the gift of friendship and divinely inspired music that drives away hopeless thoughts with love. And now, I raise my glass to you Ria; to friends and family everywhere who are boldly traversing the valley of the shadow of death in pain and in peace –

 

Cheers!

One Love, One Spirit


PS: Butterfly represents being transformed by the renewing of their minds to do what HE calls them to do. Creative Negativity is the metamorphosis of the negativity (doubt, pain, persecution etc) we have to overcome to become who we really are and do what we are born to do.

THE MAIN ATTRACTION

Okay! Question.

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If you planned on visiting Hollywood and actually did, what would be a memorable experience for you? Would it be –

  1. Going up to take a photo at the Hollywood sign
  2. Hiking on the “Walk of Fame” on Hollywood Boulevard – OR –
  3. Actually walking into or meeting and talking with a Hollywood star?

[Share your answers in the comments]

~ $10 says you go for option 3 ~ (Any wagers?)

But, here’s my point.

A place is NOT about the place: its about the people in that place

[Me and Anthony Anderson chit-chating about life] Continue reading “THE MAIN ATTRACTION”

Back to Basics

Howdy folks,

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Still reflecting on stuff! Its been a lazy week for me – because I am still in reflecting mode. But, its been helpful for me to STOP and go back to basics. While at it, I have been reading things I wrote years ago. Perhaps this has been the reason for this season.

And I want to share something which – you already know (I hope).

C. S Lewis wrote –

You don’t have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body.”

In your soul is the light that gives you life. It may be dim, but that’s the journey most of us are taking. Our souls embody the dreams and visions of grandeur, the essence of our ideas, the motives of our success, and questions of worth and meaning.

When we lose our will to live, we die. When we give up or quit, we become the living dead. When we lose our passion for life and our enthusiasm for a bright future, our faces become dim and we begin to crash into despair and depression. Continue reading “Back to Basics”