I’m not married. I’m just excited about it. I never used to be. Marriage used to terrify me. I grew up in a matrix of a home. I love my folks. But, I must confess that my family had quite the baggage. Ok, my side of the family. That contributed to the doubts and fear I had about marriage.
But, as one of my favorite bloggers would say,
We are all recovering from something – BBB
So, what can I possibly share about marriage that could get you thinking, preparing, and as excited as I am, you wonder. Let me share some observations.
Notice married people. Think of your married friends.
Its as if when someone gets married, God shifts them into a whole new dimension of reality that the single people cannot seem to either grasp or adapt to. The change is exponential. EVERYTHING shifts! And soon, you yourself begin to long for something pure, innocent, and lovely.
An older friend who has been married for years, in a reply to my text inquiring of his well being, wrote, “Family is gold for sure. Excited for when you get to experience that for yourself.”
Ahhh…! So exciting!!!
What makes it even more exciting is the fact that I am a virgin.
There, I said it! [WHAT!!!]
Yes, I am! And, yes I did!
And it feels good baby. For a good looking fella like me, its not been a piece of cake! But, hey…I’m the last man standing baby. Woot woot!
It hasn’t been an easy choice.
But yea – IT’S EXCITING!
Then, think of the numerous scriptures about marriage in the bible.
There always seem to be very rare blessings attached to marriage. Those who seem to prosper and rise higher and stay successful longer in the world are married people who build strong families. There is just something about marriage that changes things.
Here are some of my favorite that get me excited.
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” – Genesis 2:22-24
“May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. A loving doe, a graceful deer – may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love” – Proverbs 5:18-19 [Amen! amen!]
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” – Proverbs 18:22
“Your wife will be like a fruitful vine in your home, and your children will be like young olive trees round your table” – Psalms 128:3
Its as if when it comes to marriage, God has a personal investment in it. Plus, wherever there is capacity to be fruitful and multiply, God cannot resist investing in it. How can He? Last time I checked, HE is Jewish [Lol…no offense Jesus!]
Also, when you marry, your other half becomes an extension of yourself. That means a new set of likes, dislikes, and attitudes. And if you are colorful, creative, and adventurous like I am, you just discovered a whole real estate to explore and play hide and seek if you catch my drift. [Hmm hmm…I’m I right ladies?]
That’s why before getting into marriage, I am finding it is increasingly becoming important to REALLY get to know yourself. I mean deep introspection and discovery of who you are independent of God as well as in Christ.
Because when you marry, it appears you will be discovering a whole new self in your awesome other.
I have lived with several families of different beliefs. Some with 10 kids, married to a family of 15 kids. Some with no kids. Others near divorce, and others that are thriving. You may disagree, but what I have noticed is that –
You cannot be fully blessed without actually experiencing marriage. It is almost not feasible to experience the fullness of God’s blessings and the fullness of your destiny without it. Except you have special grace from heaven
Marriage takes you into and closer to the height of your destiny quicker. It is a blessing but it seems to be the perfect test of time and character.
Notice those who marry well or prepare before they enter it.
Its as if their linear graphs takes sharp upward spin and keeps going up. Forget about the arguments, the ups, and downs of marriage. That’s what spices things up. Challenges are tasty.
And ohhhh…the blessing of having kids. There are such a joy. I love them. A Jewish woman once said,
“Now that I have kids, I feel I understand God a little better. I now know what it means to have something you can’t control.“
Isn’t that just fun???
So, this is my conclusion.
When you marry, you will enter a new dimension of life and existence. You will grow exponentially. And God will bless you exponentially.
But if you are not psychologically, spiritually, and mentally ready and if you take the institution of marriage for granted, the following will happen –
When you marry, you will enter a new dimension of life and existence. You will experience stress exponentially. God will bless you exponentially. But it will look like exponential problems.
Am I right ladies???
So, in the words of my big brother whom I haven’t seen for over fifteen years –
Family is Gold.
…and God is good!
Marriage is a blessing!
Get ready for it people. Its part of being fulfilled and a part of your destiny. And while you wait, here’s an interesting lesson I am learning –
Be in search of and carry a new perspective and a new appreciation of cultural differences. We all have different personal, home, and environmental cultures. So, they will be a clash. But with new perspectives, discovering cultural uniqueness helps imaginations open to new possibilities