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You have heard it said that, “Life is not about the destination but its about the journey.” Well, I disagree. Okay maybe – slightly.

The most valuable lesson I have learned in my travels and adventures is this:

Life, dreams, visions…destiny is not about the destination and its really not about the journey either. Its about THE PEOPLE on the journey to your destination.

Of these people, there is a small percentage that makes your life frustratingly bliss and invaluable. There are a paradox, this bunch. They are crazy, naughty, stubborn, lovely,, frustrating, and a funny bunch. Sometimes you will even try to hide the fact that you are related to some of them. But hey, as they say, “Blood is thicker than water.” This bunch is called – family. Here are some remarkable things that have been said about them:

You don’t chose your family. They are God’s gift to you as you are to them – Desmond Tutu

Family is not an important thing; it is everything – Michael J Fox

Families are the compass that guides us. They are the inspiration to reach great heights, and our comfort when we occasionally falter. – Brad Henry

Love your family. Spend time, be kind & serve one another. Make no room for regrets. Tomorrow is not promised & today is short. – unknown

I have lived with several families: some with no kid to those with 12 kids and met those with 15 kids. Yep…its real. I have lived together with family and done family alone. I have had some of the loneliest birthdays and christmas holidays. But after some of these excruciating times, I have come to realize how valuable family is. Your family is the stepping stone for whatever God is preparing you for.

Maybe that’s why last week, I had an epiphany – be excellent where you are and give your best for every valued family member and for any of their celebrations. For my nephew’s birthday, I goofed-sang, “Ceee…lebrate good times come on.”  At his graduation, we hollered so much, we spooked the little guy so much that he refused to present while on stage. It was fun. Then, took some crazy photos.


Then a day later, I was celebrating my cousin’s birthday. First, we barbecued (well…more like charred that fish and meat). Later that night, we put on our best clothes – mhmm mmm…suit for me – and then went out to a gala, ate, and watched white people dance African music.

Hahahaha…that was…soooooo….spooky and hilarious. Not judging! Enough said.

We had a good time. I guess I can begin to write something down in my own journal huh. Finally, I have memories to live on. Don’t underestimate how important this is. coming from a man who traveled to fast, missed good times, crashed, returned to pick up some pieces, and is now doing it right.


My point is – enjoy the moment, be present in the present, be emotionally engaged with those who you are with, create moments, and make memories memorable with your family. Your family will always be your family and home will always be home and no one else’s family will bring you the into that authentic family feeling that gives us the juice to go out and do exploits. So, make it worth it and if necessary, fight to preserve it. Its the best you’ve got.

I guess what I am saying is


That’s what my crazy awesome brother whom I haven’t seen in over 15 years said to me. Looking forward to a reunion. Here’s to no more lonely celebratory holidays.


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